mother inlaw?

Question

does anyone here have or knows someone whose mother inlaw and sister inlaw is a evil lying monster who creats drama and is trying to make her son hate you by implying false accusations,

my sister inlaw stared acting up after i came to the house to live, she started crying ans stopped talking to every one, she said b4 i came her bro used to take her out for dinner and they used to watch movies late night and sleep together. can ne one tell me about this plz

by the way shes 25

pardon me i just saw someone sterio type whose name starts with a Z, i was born and raised in america and have had a full education so dont go judging people just by a small paragraph people write on yahoo questions. its people like you that belong to my inlaws category

Answer 1

It's your husband's responsibility to set them straight. You are his life time partner, not them. He must stick up for you, and stand up to them. If he doesn't, this will never end. He does need to know that when he does stick up for you, it will affect his relationship with his Mom and sister, and it could be in a negative way. But that 's part of being a true Man, stand up for what you believe. (that goes for Women too).

Answer 2

I have to say after reading all the answers I can't agree with anyone. I feel very fortunate that my in-laws are like my parents to me. They have never gotten in our business at all through out our marriage and several time they lived with us. I love them dearly and am very close to them. However, sometimes this situation happens more than not. I hate to tell you, but this situtation probably will not stop no matter what you do. Even if your husband stands up for you, it will only create more problems. I would say for you and your husband need to really find your own place to start your life free from problems. You didn't say how long you've known your husband, but if you knew him long enough, you probably should have known his family and how they are. People don't change overnight so don't expect this to change overnight. I wish you the best of luck, and I really hope for your marriage and maybe for future children you and the family will someday get along and put the past behind.

Answer 3

What are husband and sister-inlaw doing in bed together? She's got to let go of her brother. Why would you want to live wit the in-laws, anyway? How long have you been there? I'd hate that. I've got a coworker, 20, who is a newlywed and living with relatives?Now, the two have a baby. I don't get that. I want my privacy.
It's bad enough that at 38, I've never had my own place.

Answer 4

MINE!! (no sister in law though) My husband is an only child, it is SO much worse when they don't have another child to focus on. My mother-in-law is a manipulating, conniving, evil b****. She is constantly under-minding me as a parent by going behind my back and doing exactly what I told her not to do with my son. She is always trying to come between my husband and I. I read somewhere that 75% of marriages list the husbands mother as the reason for discontent. 56% of all divorces list the mother-in-law as the reason for the separation. I would never let my mother-in-law have that much power over my life. I think so many mothers of married sons are like this because they view a wife as direct competition. They are no longer the most important woman in their sons life, and it is hard for them. I understand this, but I still can't stand her. So I totaly know what you are going through, but stand strong. If your marriage is strong you will be okay.

PS... My husband and I are looking for a house far,far away from her! Yay! we have an apartment right now, but we lived with her for a LONG time.. She always acted (and still does) like she owns me, or like I owe her something. IT SUCKED SO BAD.

Answer 5

Sounds like your sister in-law desperately needs a man and doesn't understand that her brother is not it. She's obviously jealous of you, and maybe you can subtly let your husband in on what it's doing to you to see if he will be willing to help improve the situation with you. You know, this is one of the reasons why newlyweds or married couples need their own space. It's probably not a good idea that you are living on someone Else's territory. I'm not judging and I don't know your situation, but maybe it's time to get your own place.

Answer 6

My in laws are crazy with a capital C I avoid the best I can, also when I have to be in there company I usually say as little as possible. My husband knows his family is nuts so it makes it easy, the drama stops when you don't feed into it. If your sister in law is upset that her brother spends less time with her then I would let her know she needs to take that issue up with him and that you can not control him to spend time with her or not. I would look to get a place just you and your husband you need to move out and leave the drama behind.

Answer 7

I'm a bit worried about you're 25yr old sister in law, i think she needs therapy because if shes an adult and is reacting this way to her brother's relationship. It's possible they are very close siblings or that she is just possessive, you might want to bring this up with your husband so that his relationship with his sister does not deteriorate and your relationship with your sister in law improves. As for your mother in law, that's another story. Mothers are always protective of their children. My mother still does not completely approve of my sister in law (and they have been married for 8yrs almost) but their relationship has improved because they do not depend upon my brother as a way to communicate. You may just need to sit down with her and clear up what exactly is the cause of the conflict(s).

Answer 8

I stay away from my home because of my husband's job. However I do visit home often. Maa is very good to me & treats me like a baby. But when my SIL arrives, maa 'transforms' into a typical MIL. And both of them start the drama (but definitely not like the way your guys do). I ignore them (& as days passed by the intensity of the dramas decreased, maybe because they realized that I care a damn) and every time I visit home I decide that this would be my last visit. But after leaving home, i do long to go back.

Can't live with her, can't live without her!

Answer 9

Oh Candy! I feel for you, I really do. However, the monster mother-in-law / sister-in-law saga will never end. Except for giving you a patient ear there is really nothing much we can advice you to do that you don’t already know. The way I see it… if they are getting you in trouble with your hubby and he is idiot enough to listen to them then go ahead and do the things they are accuse you of only do it in a far worse way. Give it to them back ten fold…what the heck if you are going to get in trouble at least be guilty of something…behind your hubby’s back make they life miserable give them something to complain about. In front of your hubby be an absolute angel, you know…hug them, praise them, kill them with kindness got the picture?

Answer 10

I don't think I would want to live with him or anything else if he was spending that kind of time with his sister that is that old. Watching t.v. late and SLEEPING together? That is sick and yes I think their nuts. Do you want that kind of family? you sound like you have the spirit to fight these ignorant people but why would you want too? Get a decent man with a good family who adores you and is happy that you are in their sons/ brothers life. Forget these back hill ignorant people.

Answer 11

Save your money and move out. If anyone makes any nasty comments to you or acts like a jerk let your husband know that they have to respect you or that is a reflection of him not respecting you. You are his wife and regardless if anyone likes you they must respect you and treat you the way they treat him. If he doesn't stick up for you then you should wonder about who you married to. If it was the other way around you should do the same. But if he lets anyone (including family) put you down then he doesn't respect you or love you.