do u think pre-martial sex is wrong and why?

Answer 1

I used to be such an advocate for no sex before marriage, but I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years and one day It just happened I lost it to him, and got pregnant!!
The reason I always wanted to wait till marriage is because I didn't want to get pregnant at a time I wasn't ready, and I did get pregnant at 19! Me and my now husband wouldn't have changed a thing though we are so happy with our daughter!

Answer 2

Everyone has a right to think and do what they want to. This is just my point of view. Pre-marital sex is fine. Promiscuity isn't. Not necessarily from a religious stand point but from a practical and ethical standpoint. Very often, the line separating pre-marital sex and promiscuity (pre-marital) is very thin. If you really love someone and want to make love to that person hoping, and at least partly confident, that you will have a future together, then that is fine. However, I have seen several people who jump in and out of physical relationships, citing 'love', when they hardly know or invest in the other person. That is being promiscous. By the above token, I don't mind marrying someone who has had sex with someone else before but I wouldn't marry someone who is promiscous. It denotes a basic lack of stability and maturity which I don't think prudent to invest in terms of a relationship. I also agree that age plays a very important part. Children shouldn't run the risk of having children. It is not for nothing that most countries have the legal age as 18. Even so, 18 is a tad young for most people. It may seem prudish but there is considerable merit to that thought. Just because something is from the dark ages doesn't necessarily mean that it is wrong. Also, most historians would tell you that the sp called "dark ages" or technically "upper middle ages" was not necessarily a virtuous time frame. So their rules were based on practical experiences.

Answer 3

I think this is one of the most important questions a person can ask, so here's the response.

I think it's wrong because sex is meant to be the closest two people can get to each other. If it is done with people besides your spouse before you marry, when you have marital sex, there's nothing left to experience, and you end up comparing to past partners.

Think about how one of the respondents warned against teenagers doing it because they weren't ready for it mentally or emotionally. I think that tells you how powerful it is.

I think that when sexual relationships end, you end up losing a part of yourself and you can never get it back. Especially if you're sensitive.

So why not save yourself the heartache and wait until actual commitment. People might point out to the high instances of divorce, but people who wait divorce less frequently, especially if they wait until they're over 25.

The other issue is that most people who are sexually active develop at least one std in their lifetime. From that perspective, and considering the inefficacy of condoms against many std's like genital warts, I don't think that it's particularly safe.

When people compare marriage to buying a car and taking a test drive, then that's just dehumanizing.

Sex is meant to be about love, and though your wedding night won't be perfect, it is better to learn with your life partner. Why should the wedding night be perfect, except in the fact that the two are closer to each other than ever before.

Answer 4

Absolutely not!

Just remembering back to when I first had sex, I can't imagine how awkward it must be for two virgins with no carnal background to try and figure it out on their wedding night. Wouldn't you want to be the best lover that you could be to please your partner in the greatest way that you know how? How can you do that if you've never before engaged in sexual congress?

Not to say that you should be promiscuous and hurt people just for the experience, but I have to believe that what most humans are looking for in a sexual partner is someone who knows what he/she is doing and how to please himself/herself.

Why is it wrong? The risk of STDs and pregnancy? There are more than enough health precautions that you can take. Because a collection of letters written a long time ago (which, by the way, contains plenty of other guidelines and codes of behavior that are pretty messed up and are conveniently never cited by the "morally" ultra-religious) says that you shouldn't? Only if you believe and take the words literally, which I believe it was never meant to be interpreted.

My opinion is that sexual compatibility is a huge part of what I'm looking for in a future partner, and I'm lucky enough to have a girlfriend that I'm comfortable with; as it's been posted before, who would want to buy a car that they never take for a test-drive?

Never underestimate the power of bad sex to break up an otherwise wonderful relationship.

On the other hand, never underestimate the power of great sex to hold together an otherwise dysfunctional relationship.

Answer 5

For teenagers, yes. For adults (aka after High School), no.

Teenagers aren't trusted with voting because they are irresponsible and irrational. If they can't vote, they can't have sex. Period. Plus, so many bad things can happen with sex that a teenager isn't responsible for financially, spiritually, emotionally, and maturity-wise.


Adults can do as they please. When getting into a relationship, you need to test the entire person. Period. If the relationship is good and you wait until y ou are married to have sex...the relationship might fizzle. I have known plenty that have done that. Casual sex has its place as well. People are sexual creatures, we need to express that sexuality or else it can destroy us. IF we don't have a healthy view of sex verses love (trust me, even if you wait...they can get confusing and in this day and age with the divorce rate so high, you need to know the difference and yes sex changes things that much) so you can have good relationships.

Just be safe. Educate yourself. Test before and after each partner and make sure they are tested. Use a condom each time and make sure you respect yourself above everything else. Don't stay with someone because you had sex and don't lose yourself.

Answer 6

yes, number one according to the bible you should be a virgin until you marry, number two most people dealing with this issue although they may be very mature in most ways have never dealt with the feelings etc. that go along with this situation and three you have to worry about std's and pregnancy. These are life changing situations. Why do something that may scar your life forever? When it is done in the context of marriage with somone that you love enough to want to spend the rest of your life with and they with you , you have eliminated at least 90% of the problems that the others who didn't make a wise decision may have.

Answer 7

I don't think it's wrong as long as you truly love the person you're doing it with.

So one night stands are out of the question...it seems like pre-marital sex is a LOT more accepted today than it was in the past.

Answer 8

pre-martial sex in never wrong sex i great the more the better

Answer 9

yes it is. It's unsafe because you don't know how many people she/he has slept with. Also weather you are a girl or a boy it can be very emotional. I know alot of these jerks who are answering your question are saying no of coarse not, sex is fun but they are the ones who are going to suffer with AIDS, HIV, GENITAL WARTS, and many more of the other hundreds of thousands of STD'S. My advice to you is wait until your married. And to all the other idiots who answered NO to this question "Enjoy a long, slow, painfully horrible death you morons." I don't care how fun sex may be YES IT IS WRONG. If you don't believe me then look it up in the bible under "FORNICATION."
Good Luck-----Brigette of the wolves

Answer 10

I agree with it totally iv been with my partner for 13 years & have 2 beautiful children, i think why get married if you are already happy why change things just for a piece of paper as long as 2 people love each other why should it matter xxxxx.