Is it wrong to date a 14yo and im 18?

Question

Before you jump into haste I think it hasto do with how you really care for one of another Personally I know its bad but I love her soo freaking much i'd do anything for her. we talk about everything all the time we spend from like 10 at night to 5am talking about stuff. And i'm not even perverted or anything like that towards her. I even support and tell her that drugs/smoking is bad and that u shouldnt do it. But her parents hate it, they think im like 30 even though i've seen them and i honestly look like im 16. idk what to do they tell her that she cant seem me again ((Happend before and we started dating again)) and idk what to do..

*Note* I was dating her since I was 16.

Also guys ive been dating her for 3 freaking years I WOULD NEVER FREAKING TOUCH HER SO DONT EVEN put that IN THERE

.... Please not Sex Related or 30-16.. i love her of her personality not apperance.

We wernt dating when i was 16 when i turned 17 i asked her out and she was 13 we almost have the same bday

Her parents are messed up here are a FEW things that they have done

Last night her dad put a loaded nail gun to her head and told her to clean her room or else he would shoot her when he came in if it wasnt clean.

Last December when it happend we wernt seeing eachother and her uncle raped her. She told her mom and her mom said that she was lying.. It took her grandpa and me to call the cops.

And we would only Talk on the phone on weekends... weekdays we newsually got off at 11ish

Im still in school..

Answer 1

14 and 18 isn't too outrageous in difference. Especially if you've known her since you were 16. Some parents just don't like to have their girls date or have boyfriends under a certain age. But if it does any help, you can ask her to gently point out to them that you are not a bad influence. Or have a closer association with the family so that they'll look at the two of you as if you're just regular kids growing up together in the neighborhood.

Answer 2

If you really care anything about her, you would respect her age and respect her parents' wishes. Keeping her on the phone until 5 am is disrespectful and you should both be in school and not sneaking around to date.

To be honest, you seem to be justifying your actions about how old you seem to think you look, how much you care about her, and the advise you are giving her concerning drugs and smoking, which, to me, makes me think you are a little older than you are saying. I certainly hope you have not had sex with this child.

Enroll in school, get a job, wait 2 years and gain her parents' trust and permission before you attempt to date her again. If you want to keep in touch, try email, IM, or (if her parents approve) shorter phone calls at an appropriate time of day.

*****Note: If you were dating her when you were 16, that would mean she was only 12 at the time and you really need to re-evaluate how you are harming her and yourself. You both have a LOT of growing up to do.

Answer 3

For some reason 4 years apart doesn't seem like alot. But you are going against the law, and it is wrong. A 14 year old going out with an 18 year old, doesn't that seem wrong and not right? It would be different if you were 22 and she was 18 or the other way around. The number 14 is to young to be dating anyways. Either you start dating girls around your age, or you wait 4 more years for the girl you are in love with now. It's your choice, and also your fault when you end up going to Jail.

Answer 4

well the age difference and the fact that you are 18 make certain things very illegal, but no really there isnt anything wrong with dating someone younger. i dated a freshman in hs when i was a senior and his dad called me a child molester even though we werent physically intimate. But if her parents are telling her she cant see you that does make it much more difficult to keep up a relationship. Try talking to them before anything else. Honestly getting her to go behind their backs and sneak and see you will only make them hate you worse. That is good that you two can talk about alot, so if worse comes to worse just be friends for a while and once she gets a little older maybe you two can get back together. Good luck

Answer 5

not completely wrong if you understand that sex if not legal and that 4 years at that age is a big differance. we all learn a ton in 4 years at that age. once she hits 18 it is fine and once you hit 20 or more it is common.
so as long as you understand that some things are not allowed in your relationship now it should be ok . you also need to think how much you changed from when you were 14 . this is at least how much she will change so in 4 years you could have a totally different person with you .
be good and dont give into temtation . even if she is all for it you know one word stuck to you can wreck the rest of you life. that word is rape. so be carefull and be good .

Answer 6

well im sorta in the same position as u, except im the 14 year old and the guy i have soooo many feelings for is 11, but hes allowed to u kno date me, but i mean i totally understand what you mean by it has to do with how much u care about some one, cuz people question me and laugh at me about likeing a 6th grader, but ive learned to totally ignore it now, so anyways, i kno how u must feel about her, but u r the legal age, which i also sorta dont like the fact that u cant love someone younger than you at that point, but like her parents obviously think its wrong,and she also has a lot that she hasent gone through up to that age, so she still has like 4 more years to live out diff. experiences, and like if u keep it secret and her parents find out, then i guess you can get in trouble, so if u truly will do anything for her... live your life until she is 18, wait for her. but keep in touch with her,

Answer 7

well, dude, I know what it is your feeling may be purely legit but you also have to realize she is a minor and you are of legal age.You see if her parents wanted to they could press charges on you and have you arrested for being involved with a minor.A cop would have a field day with it and turn it into a major deal and there for give you a record that will haunt you for the rest of your life.You will then be forced to register yourself as a pedophile in your community and even though you didn't really do anything wrong,others will not know the details of your real situation and think of you as some child rapist or something.Now, Ask yourself if this is all really worth going through.I say if I was you I would honor her parents wishes or risk suffering major consequences for this "feeling of love".Trust me dude, You will get over her and find a girl closer to your age to fall in love with.And who knows. 5yrs down the road you may get the chance to meet up with her again and then it would be all legal and hurt no one.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

in case you have been sixteen years old then i'd say particular yet your no longer sixteen so why would that is incorrect ? only because of the fact there's a huge age diffrence between the two one in each of you dont advise there is a few thing incorrect with the relationship if so then im incredibly screwed as im 28 and my companion of four years is 40 9 so i've got been given your age diffrence beat massive time LOL..Love is love age is a variety bear in concepts that...

Answer 9

Its called statutory rape and if you touch her you can end up in jail. Get away from her and wait a few years if you love her so freakin' much you can do that.

Get busy with people your own age. Look in the mirror to see where you confidence level is and try to improve it. Go to college or get an out of town job. I would tell you to join the military but right now you could get your --- blown off.

Answer 10

you'd think that a four year difference is not that big of a deal. i have a friend who is 17 and his girlfriend is barely 15. they have a very rocky relationship. why? because as much as she likes him, she is not as ready as him to have a relationship (not that 17 is a good age to have a serious relationship). but he says he loves her and wants to keep working at it. as much as the whole thing that girls mature faster than boys is quite true, its still difficult because she is at a different stage in her life. you have already been thru it and she is just starting hers. thats why it will be very difficult to sustain a relationship. especially if her parents disapprove, (they are not so wrong in doing so) and you should respect their wishes. and i really dont think she can love you the way you say you love her. anyway i hope things go good for you.