i dont understand, i want to know why a lot of people on here are rude to teen mothers ? we`re not all bad..?

Question

yes i agree, there are some teen mothers that give us bad names, but why take it out on all of us ?

Answer 1

I agree. Teen mothers are not automatically bad mothers. I think that the reason a lot of answers on here are rude are partially because of the grammar and method used in asking questions. When it is hard for people to read and understand questions its frustrating and you wonder how they will raise a child. Other questions seem to be as "duh" as "I had sex, could I be pregnant?" and again we wonder how these people are raising children. i havent looked through your answers to see about what i would say to you specifically, but many teen mothers are not ready at all and many are good moms so it really all depends. =) Hope youre doing well.

Answer 2

I won't get into it too much because you've gotten many similar answers. I was 19 when I had my daughter. She is a beautiful healthy, happy 1 year old this march. As long as the comments and looks you get don't influence you and your decisions, just do what you're doing. I was discouraged to no end when I announced I was pregnant and I was already going through enough stress. But I was strong about what I believed was the right thing to do and I don't regret for a second. The funny thing is, too, that a woman who is 20 and a woman who is 30 who become mothers at the same time can get into it knowing the same things. One isn't more experienced than the other with parenting unless they've done it before. What's important is their levels of maturity and patience and readiness for the job.
The timing for someone to be rude may be because a) they don't know you or b) they haven't really accepted the fact that their baby is having a baby. I went through that and it was hard but now I live with my parents and they are supportive and helpful. As a teen mother you shouldn't feel ashamed if you feel you're doing the right thing. Just be sure you are giving a safe environment to the baby and try to keep your mental health for their sake and for your own.

Answer 3

I had my daughter as a teen. I've always been a good mom and have supported my daughter by myself. We have always lived in the suburbs, had a nice car, and a nice house. I've worked my way up the ladder, from a scared teen mother with no skills, to a highly respected manager. I've always put my daughter before anything/anyone else.

I'm 30 now. 12 years of doing this, here's what I've learned. You will NEVER have a time in your life that people will not judge you. Teachers will disrespect you, other parents will ask if you are your child's sister, co-workers will make comments; heck, even strangers will make comments in the grocery store. You will always have to prove that you are a good mom, a good worker, a good wife, etc. All you can do is remember that you are not a statistic and you do not fall into the generalization. Basically, you are not the one they are talking about. Besides, everyone is judged at some point in their life.

I say life it to short to be angry, so have fun with it. My daughter and I love to laugh at the reactions we get from people, expecially since she looks much older and I look much younger.

Answer 4

I dont know why people are rude but its how people are these days. Theres nothing wrong with beying a teen mom if u are ready and even then u just have 2 step up and face reality which is the main problem with young parents. Im 20 and my boyfriends a little younger but we are ok. and people just need 2 stop being rude.

Answer 5

It's really is too bad...I felt shamed because I did not have a ring on my finger when I was pregnant at 26...the looks people give!!! YIKES!
I think it is just drilled into our heads not to get pregnant so young, so when you see a teen mom, you look down on them for making the one mistake everyone tells you not to.
Just keep your head up and be strong in the knowledge that you are a good mother..what other people think of you doesn't matter...

Answer 6

i agree - i'm no longer gonna react any in yet in a different thank you to somebody saying i'm pregnant and that i've got this difficulty if the lady is 14 or its from a 28 year old lady - yet while they make it an argument via saying i'm 14 and pregnant what do they assume? they're gonna get judgement cuz they're too youthful to look after a toddler, yet in addition with that - i think of its cruel for those human beings to tell them they ought to have had an abortion and making a huge deal out of it cuz they're gonna be irresponsible - they arent inevitably gonna be irresponsible, it relies upon on their upbringing. confident, it relatively is youthful to have little ones as they have no activity, no source of income and much less duty than a mom who's somewhat older - 18+ as an occasion yet yeah ur extraordinary they make it a huge deal via saying 'i'm 14 and pregnant' its like bringing their age to interest even nonetheless its no longer needed... i advise its in comparison to i bypass around saying 'i'm 24 and pregnant' cuz its no longer mandatory - your age doesnt make a difference.

Answer 7

I am 19 years old my husband is 27, We planned our little boy and I've never been happier. Its not like I'm not going to college because I'm in school right now and I went to tax school and am now a tax specialist. It was so bad that no one from my family came to see me in the hospital except for my parents. I think its a shame that people feel that because I am young I am not a good mother. I work so hard just to make sure my son recieves all the things he deserves.

Answer 8

I think that people only see the bad teen moms who get pregnant, and go out like they have no responsibilities. I knew so many teen moms even mom's who are in their early to mid 20's who go out and party, drink every night, and just give their kid to their parents. You don't see the stories of teen mom's who drop all they have to take care of their child, and hold a job, be a student, and a mom. More power to you Mom's out there who are really making society a better place. Sometimes, I find my opinion tarnished because I see so many young mom's where I work and what my job entails and see all the money they are getting from us tax payers and it doesn't even phase them. Thanks for putting me back into check to remind me there are Mom's out there who care about their children, even if they are "children" themselves. Kudos!!

Answer 9

I know how it is, you are a young mom, and you see things that older moms do wrong and older moms see young moms doing something wrong. I have witnessed many older mothers in many bad situations. Like this one woman was just reading a magazine and her two boy twins were wreaking havoc all over the play place. Stealing bows out of girls hair, pushing children, smacking them, and I told the boys to stop, but they continued. I went to the mom, and she didn't care and she left. I have also witnessed a young mom trying to study, but she had 4 kids and one of them was running all over the food court and she didn't even notice. I had to chase him down. Older moms don't think that we can make it on our own. They have lived their life and have big houses, fancy minivans, and a perfect life. They think that we are unable to provide a loving environment. And we got pregnant on accident. I planned both of my pregnancies. My husband and I are the youngest in the neighborhood. Nobody talks to us because of our age. people are stubborn, ignore them, you only have to impress yourself and your child. Show everyone that you don't care what people think, even though it is hard to do. I'm not going to present myself to look better for other people, I will only do it for myself. It's a stereotype. I'm 20 and you know what, I myself have stared at the young moms. We are all not perfect, why try and act like you are to amuse others? Forget them, it doesn't matter, your baby does.

Answer 10

Ive personally never witnessed people being rude to young mothers of children, or young women who are pregnant. I have seen people give rude answers to teens who have unprotected sex and then ask stupid questions like "I THINK IAM PREGNANT, HELP!" or "Can precum get you pregnant?"

Being a mother is about being selfless for the sake of your child, not about what other people say, or think of you.