The relationship went downhill last X'mas. The last time we talked was Jan 31th when he sent me an email and said he would talk to me soon and he loves me and always will. But up till now I haven't heard anything from him. I called him on valentine's day. He did not answer so I left him a message. I sent him a few emails and told him I would like to talk things out with him, but got no replies. It has been 17 days. Should I move on or just hang in there and give it more time as he said he needed to work something out.
2007-02-17 04:27:32 · 5 answers · asked by hhfe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have to agree with tafternoon's response because of my own personal experience. Unfortunately not everyone is strong enough to tell someone face to face that they want out. I think it is wrong and disrespectful of him not to be honest with you; however, you can not force anything out of him. If he is just "working something out" then he would give you the courtesy of a phone call or email. Because he has not called or emailed he is clearly sending the message that he wants the easy way out and that is for you to just move on without him having to tell you.
When this happened to me it hurt very much. I felt that he should have given me the respect of the truth. It took alot of courage to just move on and not pester him for an answer. I'm glad I did because I think if I had tried to contact him it would have only prolonged my recovery.
Move on, you deserve better.
2007-02-17 06:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by crzynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emails and not responding to you. He is blowing you off. If someone likes you they try to spend time with you they CALL you. Emails are not acceptable forms of communication. They are fun, but a call really shows they care. It means they want to hear your voice and really want to know how you are doing and how your day is going. To answer your question, don't give this person another thought because they aren't thinking of you. And don't you deserve someone who is thinking of you and cares for you? OFCOURSE YOU DO! Stop consuming your thoughts with this person so the right person can have room to come into your life.
2007-02-17 13:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, let me tell you; guys don't, in general, "talk things out". If something isn't working for us, for whatever reason (legit or not), we simply move on. Things that are of value to us, regardless of whether they are good or bad values, we tend to grab hold of and fight to make it work for us. The fact that he has nonchalantly "blown you off" tells me that he has NO interest in talking it out; he's happier doing whatever....or whoever......he is now, and doesn't want to talk to you about it out of guilt or just plain inconvenience to him.
2007-02-17 12:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by tafternoon@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 days is a long time to go without any response: i say move on because more then likely he has. im sure it hurts but youre better off.
2007-02-17 14:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by TiMe To LeT gO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is likely "working out" is another chick.
Move on. He could not make it more clear.
2007-02-17 12:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋