Ladies please help me with your wisdom...?

Question

I have a question, please help me with your wisdom. I was born in poverty and since I became 16, with God's help I have worked hard to help my family. My brother and I founded an Internet company, today I am 20 and my family is financially free.
When I had nothing, every single girl I asked out would say "no". Now that I am here with God's help, all these girls keep on bothering me and trying to get my attention. I don't know what is going on, its madness. What does money do to people? Its so hard to know if a girl really loves me.

Answer 1

HI there
I know what you mean by money and women...
but i am just wondering if that is somehow in your mind (may be half way, not saying all in your mind) - because you were young. Most probably you had hormonal changes, your face didn't look as mature, you had teenage boys spots, you had young face and girls may not be as interested that age... but as you grew up, and every part of your body started to grow (down part mostly) your face shined with good looks, your eyes sparkled in spirits, and when you walked in the streets or anywhere you go, you melted all those girls and they want you now.

don't give up.Enjoy the good ones, have fun, you are young and you need your phisical help. Use condom though just in case one or two use you to get pregnant and kidnap you in their own scay, long, evil nails and then you're trapped for the rest of your life.

You need to enjoy yourself, and i think it is the best time of your life. Go for it, enjoy it, feel proud of yourself of what you've achieved, and god will STILL be there for you to make the RIGHT decisions in relationships.

I am married and too old for you.
but I think you sound good man.
x

Answer 2

1) Have you changed yourself in anyway? Maybe you changed your grooming or your clothes. Went from the Salvation Army to Sachs Five. Went from Supercuts to a beauty spa. Work out at a gym instead of sitting in front of a monitor all day. Go to church instead of going to the fridge. Asking a girl out to a play instead of a movie at home with microwave popcorn. Can you say Metrosexual? Those are the ways you might have changed which can look more attractive to a lady.

2) Women need to look for a provider. Women look down the line. When they look at a guy they want to date they also look at if he can provide for them and a possible family. Guys get angry at this but women don't want to waste time. Now that women have sex a lot sooner on dates they also want to make sure that what that sex may produce may be fed and they don't have to be the only one feeding it. I don't believe women always do this consciously. So Guys, you can not have your cake and eat it too.

3) Get use to the fact that people are going to act differently towards you because you have more money. That is probably one reason you strived to make more money in the first place or did you forget that part. Relax and enjoy yourself.

Looks like you got a lot of wisdon.

Answer 3

Some women are attracted to money and the others are attracted to the confidence u carry with u now.
When u were poor, u probably didnt hold your head quite so high.
Now that you are financially confortable, i am sure your head is held quite high.
Confidence is very attractive in a man.
The job you have, and its a tough one, is to distinguish which one you are dealing with. Is it a woman who is attracted to your money or your confidence.
When u go out on dates with these women, perhaps u need to go dutch. Dont spend the money on them u normally would. Allow yourself to see the inner person instead of the money hungry ones. If they disapprove of going dutch, then they are after what they can get. Its an idea, not sure if it will work. But its about the only way i know of to tell the difference. Well, that and time will tell.
Good luck to u.

Answer 4

Here's the thing. My boyfriend's family has lived in poverty, and is still in poverty. He is working his way through college so he can make something better of his life. At many points it gets very rough, some of the things he has to deal with with his family. There are emotions such as depression involved, and a a day to day wondering if he is going to make it. It's very stressful and difficult at times to deal with. I love him and have stuck it out with him for over 4 years, but at points it still gets tough sometimes. Some people can't deal with that however, poverty comes with a lot of downsides that are difficult to deal with once in a serious relationship. That is why so many girls have been pushed away. I'm not saying it is right or it is fair, but that is the way life works sometimes.

The way you will know if a girl really loves you is if she is interested in most aspects of your life, if she wants to get to know your family, if she doesn't expect you to dole out your money on her, and if she seems to genuinely care about you. You could test it by giving her some kind of homemade gift (something you would give or get a girl if you were poor again). See how she reacts. Talk to the girls you date about your situation and previous situation and try to see whether she will be by your side through thick and thin.

Answer 5

You need to make them pitch in as much as you do. Make sure that they are responsible for their own life before you start dating. I can stand these girls that think that money is everything. Chicks think that a guy is supposed to take care of them and then blame them for everything once the relationship goes sour.
Don't spend tons of money on them especially on jewelry and such. Make them help out with the date from time to time. If they don't have a the money there other things that they can do. They can make you dinner at their place or yours and find things that you like to do instead of the focus being on them all the time. I guess bottom line is don't spend money on them for every date this should help get rid of some of the chick that are looking for a sugar daddy.

Yes I am a chick and yes I think there are some women that are just plain rude. Please take your time looking for the right one. Don't be afraid to ask the girl to put forth the monetary effort.

Answer 6

I would find someone who shares your ambition for life. Sometimes the best type of people are the ones that understand what you are going through.

I have had trouble with people because I don't think they realize I am the way I am because of the things I went through when I was younger. They think I have been this way and don't understand why I have the views I have.

I am 19 and we both have a few years so i think that in our situation patience is a virtue. Good Luck!

Answer 7

My primary advice to you would be to consider being a lot more low-key about your hard-earned income. If you spent much of your life in poverty, I can understand wanting to enjoy your financial freedom, but...how would all of these girls know how much money you have if you weren't flashing it around all the time?

Try to get over the excitement as quickly as you can. Drive a nice car, but not a flashy one. Dress well, but don't look like a pimp. Take girls out to dinner, but not to the most expensive place in town.

This won't eliminate all of your problems, but it will weed out a lot of them.

It never fails to amaze me how many men use their money/ income to attract women, and then are completely surprised to find they attract nothing but gold-diggers!

Answer 8

Love and relationships are not just about that, it also has to do with both people being financially stable. Most people when they are looking to settle down with someone are looking for someone who can match their own income level so that they both can make it in life. Of course, look out for sugar mommas, because plenty of them exisit. Find a woman who makes the same amount of money you do and you'll know she's not trying to use you for money.

Answer 9

Well you sound smart. If you are you will remember those people that did not wanted to know anything about you at the time that you were in bad times. You remember those that were there for you when you were on those times. So you should know who loves you for your money and who loved you without nothing.

Answer 10

are you flashing your money around? I don't know of anyone that I just meet that I know of their financial situation right off the bat unless he's flashing his money. In this instance you're going to have to listen real hard to your instincts. Don't let your head or your heart get in the way listen real good and you'll know most of the time, who is real and who isnt.