My Girlfriend and I were discussing this the other day. The question is, when do people normally pick the date for the wedding? Is it immediately after getting engaged, or a little while afterwards? Any help you guys could give me would be appreciated. Thanks!!
2007-02-17 04:12:12 · 11 answers · asked by Trevor V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can be officially engaged without a wedding date, you just need either:
you asked her
she asked you
you both discussed it and agreed
You don't even need a ring to be official!
As far as picking the date is concerned, it's entirely up to you both. If you already have a date in mind for any reason, then it's best to book the church/register office as soon as you can, because someone else may want that date too.
However, if neither of you have any special date in mind, or if you are not in a rush to get married yet, then don't worry about it.
Start by deciding a season, bearing in mind the potential weather (snow is lovely, but slush is not!) and temperature (sun is great, sweltering, sweating, fainting bride is not so nice).
Once you've narrowed it to a season, pick a month, if you haven't already when picking a season.
Get a calender up for the year you want to get married. If you want a weekend wedding then you will have a choice of 4 or 5 weekends in a month.
If it's not terribly important to you whether you get married on say the 1st of May or the 28th of May then just call the church/office and see what dates they have available.
More than anything else, don't get all your hopes pinned on one particular day, in case it can't happen, you don't want the day blemished before it's even booked!
You don't say if you are engaged yet or not, so congrats if you are, and good luck if you're not yet!
2007-02-17 04:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by cymraesgwyllt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you pick the venue it will help with the date. I am helping someone who did it in reverse, picked the date, and now we are having a hard time finding a venue that isn't book. If you guys have a place where the dates are pretty open pick a date that allows you all ample time to plan and pay for everything, maybe spring/summer of '08. Don't stress, good luck!
2007-02-18 02:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by ladyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently engaged to be married August of this year. It is generally a good idea to have the month that would be most convienent for you in mind and then work your actual date around that. I will use myself for an example. I was proposed to September 2nd, but I am a teacher and a wedding in September would not be good ( most people marry within a year of their engagement). So we decided on August. I began to call around for availability for the reception site, ( this is of utmost importance ) and based on the dates available for the reception site and church, I narrowed it down from there. The first round of calls, the church was not available on my original reception date of Aug 11, they however, had Aug 4 available. I called back to the reception hall to check on Aug 4 and voila! We had a winner!
After putting down small deposits ( about 10%) for the church and reception hall , we then booked the DJ, limos and photographer.
My advise: Get the big things at least booked ASAP.
2007-02-17 06:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by sunrisesmile07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say find your wedding location and 'must have' wedding professionals first and try to set your date around that. Many couples have a wedding budget and you can save quite a bit of money many times by having the wedding in the late fall or winter. Take your time and be sure of what you want for your wedding and the wedding date will find itself. :)
Congratulations on your engagement.
2007-02-17 04:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Alabama-Wedding.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say nail down the year in which you want to be married first, then progress down to months and days. The further out your wedding (think years), it'll be ok to hold off on picking a date. But if you want to do this right away, then do it. But I have to warn you, if you have any qualms at all about a certain time, say so right away. It sucks to have a date only to find out your fiance isn't wild about it later on.
2007-02-17 04:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by sweetjaimes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the date when you want to. Its your wedding and in this case all that matters is you as a couple. Whether you pick it before, after or just the day before, it will be your special day.
2007-02-17 05:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Wikiwaka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the date when you're going to start planning the wedding. My lover and I picked a date that was most convienent for our families and as early as possible. That's what weddings are about after all!
2007-02-17 04:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not officially engaged until you've got a wedding date and a ring. :-) (Of course, it takes a bit of time to make sure the place where you want to get married is available on the date you want to get married.)
Congratulations!
2007-02-17 04:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They say you are not really engaged until you have a ring and a date.
Let her pick the date and if you want a nice reception, make sure you have time to plan it. Otherwise the stress of trying to pull off a quick marriage/reception can put undue stress on your relationship.
Congrats!!
2007-02-17 05:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rackjack 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
right away...or whenever you feel ready that is- give yourself about a year to plan, this makes it alot easier on the whole STRESS part, you will have more time for everything- at least for a while. then the wedding will sneak up fast on you.
2007-02-17 04:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by MissWifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋