My fiance has a brother that is 3 years older than himself and I don't like his brother. His brother treats him and everyone in the family like crap. He wants to be bothered when he wants to be bothered and everyone walks on egg shells because they are afraid he'll get mad at them. May I add, that this individual does nothing for anyone. It sickens me how my fiance allows someone to treat him this way, but he'll yell at me or his mother in a heartbeat when we only try to help him. The last year has been horrible for my fiance and no one has been there for him any more than his mother and I. I'm very close with his mother, she's always really nice to me and we talk very often. The son and the mother have been feuding for months because the older son hardly ever lets her see her grandson and he's 3 now, and she's tired of never seeing him while his wife's mother sees him every single day. So they haven't spoken since Halloween 2006,....
2007-02-17 04:00:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and during Christmas, my fiance's mother tried to come over to her son's home and he blocked her entrance, yelled, threw her gifts on the lawn, and told her he didnt want his son to know a person like his mother. So last night, the first time EVER...his brother calls my fiance out to go out to a bar and have a drink(I figured he and his wife had an argument and I was right!), so he calls my fiance cuz he had no where else to go or anything to do. So hes been going around the family lying on his mother and now he's telling my fiance some bullshit story about what really happened Christmas and my fiance is like "I believe some of what he tells me because I know my mother and she can be mean." He told me "I took up for my mother." and I told him "You dont know what happened, ask your sister." Now he says he doesnt need to talk to his sister cuz she'll lie too. He told me that no one or nothing comes between he and his brother and that sickens me cuz his brother is wrong
2007-02-17 04:00:24 · update #1
my biggest peice of advice is to not take sides. if your fiance's brother starts to impact your life then you need to take a stand against that.... which he definately is.... and if your fiance wants to talk about his feelings with you, you can voice your opinions..... but when you have a strong tendency to take his mother's side, you risk becoming part of the drama.
i don't know exactly how you should handle it, because the brother is clearly off the deep end on this one, and you don't want to send the message you agree with that... but it must be clear that your feelings on that are seperate from your relationship.
2007-02-17 04:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow first off congrats! My daughter is 8 weeks today and i breastfeed as well. Although i do not have an issue such as this i can tell you that if I was in your shoes I would definetly let them know all the benefits of breastfeeding and the fact that its completely natural. Just remember how strong of a bond youre building with your baby and that what youre doing is great. I'm sure that when you look into your daughters eyes you know youre doing the right thing and thats all that matters.
2016-05-23 22:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are soooooooooo wierd about their brothers, I have a sister I don't get on with well and can not only admit it but stand up to her too....(she is 3 yrs older than me...sam as your future brother in law...no respect...only comes around to collect when it suits her..cept...my rents are all on her side, even though I care for them both in every way and live near them)...anywya nough bout me...
ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT IN ON THIS MESSED UP THING...it isn't going to get better, only worse...sounds like older wonder boy brother has them all under the spell....can you deal with this...you know they say that you can tell how a man will treat you by the way he treats his mom....helllo...writing may be on the wall...don't get married soon, put the plans on hold, let hubby to be grow up or get out...I am not a big fan of my hubbys bro either, but my hubby gets it, yours doesn't yet...good luck..it's a long life...
2007-02-17 04:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The brother sounds like a spoiled drama king. He acts like a two year old and enjoys making everyone miserable. I think he needs some therapy and some happy pills. It sounds like he is one of those type of people who enjoys causing trouble and then lying and then plays the victim role. He is very self-centered and could use a real reality check. He is using his own son now to play with people's emotions. What a jerk.
2007-02-17 06:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by crash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get in the middle of this. Let them work it out between them. They are Brothers and trust me the older you get, the more important your siblings are to you. You are new to the family as his fiance, you should stand by your guy and listen to him when he talks about things. It's great to be friends with his Mom but be careful not to take sides or say things you may regret later. Let the family work it out and support your husband. Stay neutral as long as you can!
2007-02-17 04:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds bi-polar to me, stay away from all the them. if your fiance is such a whimp you may need twice about marring someone so spinless.
do you really want someone elses problems.
you two and mom need to move to a new town and away from his wackout brother.
mom could always file for visitation with her grandson.
2007-02-17 04:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just bust him in the face.
2007-02-17 04:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋