my fiances parents hate me?

Question

I have no idea why they dislike me, I have stayed at there house and tried to participate in family things with them and I really like his mom but I get this awful feeling when Im around like they all just cant stand me. It makes me not even want to be around them. I just want them to like me and accept that I am the person whom their son is going to be married to in 4 months.I dont know what to do.

Answer 1

Have you talked to fiance about this? I had an uneasy feeling about his mother in the beginning too, she is now my mother-in-law for the past 3 months. I started to make conversation with her and we happened to have interest in common and went out to have coffee together and go out. Now our relationship is getting better and I really enjoy that. For parents it's sometimes hard to let go of their children,especially mothers do have that habit. Maybe your fiance should have a talk with them reluctantly asking what they think of his choice for a wife when your not there and see what they have to say.
Don't be to nervous, you are who you are and your fiance chose you to be with the rest of his life, because he loves you, and that what counts most. Good luck with all the wedding preparations.

Answer 2

OK just be really nice do the wedding how they want but make sure they don't push u around buy the mom flowers take her shopping or whatever she likes to do as with the dad well if the mom is happy the dad will be good luck and i hope the wedding goes great!!!

Answer 3

It hard to try to make any one like or except you. Just like you can't make a man or woman like or love you. People are going to be people. If you have a problem with your fiances parents try to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. Talking is the best communication in any relationship. Tell him I want to be part but they seem to push me away. By doing this talk you might open up his mind to help you cope with the problem. Try to explain in a soft spoken voice as not to be abrasive to his family. Good luck with your marriage.

Answer 4

Dont worry about them, they probably do like you, you are just feeling a little insecure at the moment and weddings are always a time for families to get upset (brings out all the "dont seat me near them" family members). Good Luck ... ... ...

Answer 5

You could talk to them about it-spend time alone together, take them out to lunch or something. Show them why their son loves you and eventually they'll come around. But as long as your fiances loves you then don't worry about the parents.

Answer 6

M you are stealing her son and she cant do anything to stop you, Or Can she?
if i were you i would suggest you should move out for a while and her son and you will try and make it on your own, say your very happy that they were so kind but you just cant impose on them any longer.
My bet is they will fall flat on their rear ends, Mother will say behind closed doors, OH My God she stealing my boy. and she will change her ways ,
as sure as God made little green apples. talk to your boyfriend and tell him about your plan. i am sure it will make mother put her sharp tongue away for good.

Answer 7

Its like Meet the Parents

Answer 8

give it time.

parents are usually very careful about who they let into the family.

you just need to give it some time.

be honest, open and yourself and it should work out. and if they say something then ask them why they hate you. NEVER EVER yell at them.. that will make things work.

kill them with your kindness.

best advice ever.

Answer 9

dont sweat it. they will come around and start to like you when they r ready. you are an outsider and that is probably how they r looking at you. just continue to be yourself and show respect and in time im sure things will come around for you. good luck

Answer 10

Is it your own insecurities? That's all the proof you've given. If there's other problems, you'll have to confront them. Ask your fiance what they say behind your back. They do talk about you behind your back.