They start out all nice and sweet and then they turn. Becoming demanding and overbaring. He is very shy and so easy going. I just don't know what to say to him I mean what do you say to a really nice guy who yes does have a back bone. I've seen him when he gets angry. Any ideas?
2007-02-17 03:47:09 · 15 answers · asked by rottenkid4560 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what a great opportunity to talk to your son about what he loves in a woman. I would have him list out some things he really enjoys and admires about a girl. Chances are that he will list characteristics that he admires about his mom, too. :) We tend to enjoy in our mate what we do not experience in our own personality. If he is peaceful and easy going he may really admire a strong woman. What is it about the strength that he likes? Help him to clarify that he likes the way they express themselves or the way they are strong in good ways. And hopefully through this you can also help him see things in the past girls that are not healthy expressions of strength. For example, it is great that she is willing to tell you what she thinks and that she is strong but it is not okay if she is totally over-bearing. Help him see what iverbearing is and what it looks and feels like when another person wants to control his every move. I suspect that he is kind and gentle and just so easy to get along with that he takes a controlling woman a bit more lightly than is healthy. Who better to earn about women from than the most important woman in his life right now. Good luck and I hope this experience draws you and your son even closer together. God Bless.
2007-02-17 03:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by rob k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your 16yr old son......he's worth so much more than the bullcrap he's bringing home. Perhaps he has a back bone, when he's angry...which isn't a good thing..can be kinda scary actually....but I guess, since your his mom...no matter what you say..he won't listen until he's ready to listen.....He'll have to learn on his own and eventually he'll "get it" ...figure it out himself. Sometimes you have to step back and let them learn for themselves. I would suggest to just let him know that the girls he's been choosing lately..are causing him nothing but grief...so either Stay away from dating altogether right now...or...let him learn on his own. Chances of him listening to you are next to Nil. At this age , both boys and girls can be quite nasty after the sweetness wears off. GoodLuck*
2007-02-17 03:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you may have babied him while he was growing up and now he needs to toughen up a bit, eh? Sorry, but I think he needs to learn from some hard knocks.....just kind of stay in the wings for him but let him flounder around abit to get his feet wet and see what life is all about.
2007-02-17 03:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 05:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that most girls are like that ... and that he better get used to it.
Also tell him that being nice is the problem ...as girls don't really want nice... getting angry won't help...
treat people how they treat you .. thats my motto...works for me
Dr BAd
nice... but demands respect
2007-02-17 04:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to choose his girlfriends, when you complain it just looks as though you are jealous. One day your sons girlfriend will be more important to him than you, I suggest you start to let him choose and make his own mistakes .. ... ...
2007-02-17 03:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by melark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son like that and you cant do a thing about it..He will learn sooner or later. I just let it go.
2007-02-17 03:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.... I would say that you need to wait for the next time he is in between girlfriends and seriously talk to him about it.
Ask him how he feels when the girls treat him like they do etc....
He is a smart guy, and doesn't want girls to treat him like crap.
2007-02-17 03:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Santa Barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would tell him not to date preps that is what they act like believe me i know my best friend does the same thing and it drives me crazy so i tell him to stick up for himself and ask advise from friends to see if they have gone out with them so he will know what they are like good luck!!!
2007-02-17 03:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by bronte d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him a nice girlfriend that looks great?
2007-02-17 03:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋