signs of future abusive boyfriend?

Question

he doesnt like me going over other guys houses or having other guys over and im on wouldyouhitthat.com (people say if they thing your hot or not) and he doesnt like that i get a lot of yeses he also doesnt want me to wear skirts or anything in front of anyone but him

do you think hes just the jealous type or are these signs that he may become abusive and overly controlling? should i break up with him now or give him a chance and see how it goes?

i definatly would break up with him on the spot if he ever hit me to hurt me

im not being a hoe and flirting with the other guys i just hang out with them cause they are my friends gender really makes no differece in how much or what way i like someone

Answer 1

He sounds possessive and controlling but think about it: would you be happy for him to go over to other girls houses or have girls over? It sounds like you are not really interested in this relationship and should cut him loose!

Answer 2

Well I would hope that you would have the sense to leave him if he put his hands on you, I don't think no man has the right to put their hands on any woman.I also don't think that they should control what a woman wears or says,he obviously was attracted to you based on those things,so why try and change you just because your with him.If you can't be yourself with someone then maybe you need to rethink the relationship.It's obvious that he's very jealous and controlling,so I would hang in there and see how bad he gets about it,and if it doesn't change then I suggest you leave him,you don't want another parent.But most times if a guy is like that from the beginning,they don't change they only get worst.And if you see signs that he may get violent just by the way that he talks to you, then move on. I can understand the jealousy about other guys,but if it comes to a point where you find that he is keeping you from your friends and family,then leave him.No one has the right to control anyone, your a person not a object that belongs to someone.

Answer 3

Sure looks that way. He doesn't like this he doesn't like that! What then does he like? For you to stop having any kind of separate personality or identity of your own? This guy is acting like big jerk who is slowly wearing you down. He's gone way over board with the demands and the controlling, even to the point of dictating how you should dress. Wow that's creepy! Aren't you fed up with this by now? Seems like you've given away a lot already and enough is enough. Before you know it you won't have a mind of your own remaining. If you don't want to break up with him then at least take take some time out from him for awhile. Maybe have a chance to breath for a change. Keep giving him anymore chances and chances are he'll have even more of a chance to further impose his will over you.

Answer 4

Ask him if he's ever been cheated on -- the closest I've ever come to being like him was for about a year after I'd recently been cheated on then dumped for an abusive, controlling man!
Then decide if it's worth it to try and help him get past it.
You may have to do that as a friend and not as a lover.
And that may not be possible.

Seems like the most likely possibility is that you will have to dump him, and don't try anything else until you have accepted that likelihood.

Answer 5

I don't know if he would be abusive, but it sounds like a bad case of posessiveness. It all depends. Are you flirtatious with other guys? Do you wear short skirts and skimpy tops to get attention? If so, you might ask yourself: Gee, how would I feel if he was flirting with other girls? Just make sure your are being sensitive to his needs. There is a man who is way too posessive. If he follows you everywhere etc. that's when the creep factor comes in and you know you got a loony on your hands.

Answer 6

He does sound a little controlling. But you 2 sound pretty young too. But my question to you is, why do you have to go onto a website that has guys "rate" you? Their opinion shouldn't matter. You don't need their approval to say if you're hot. Sounds like you might have some sort of issues with wanting to be accepted. If you ask me, that's sort of trashy. And I would guess that your boyfriend doesn't want that sort of image for you. About wearing skirts just around him, now THAT's controlling!. Beware, don't let it get to the point where he DOES abuse you. But also, have a little more respect for yourself, respect starts with YOU!

Answer 7

He is Just a Boyfriend not your husband. You have the right to dress and talk to who ever you want? If he has a problem with you being around or talking to anyone male or female he is controling, you will not be able to be happy in this relationship. Its not y ou its him he may be insecure of himself and taking it out on you. Do your self a favor do what make you feel good.

Answer 8

Well checking up on you isn't one of the main ones, but in combo with others it might be. Does he lose his temper easily, does he throw things or barely control himself? Does he always blame you or not take responsibility for his actions. Is there a history of violence in his family (both father or mother)? Does he not show you respect when you disagree with him? Does he try to control who you see and talk too? Does he always want to know what you are up too and where you are. Is he very jealous?And of course has he ever hit you. Just the simple fact that you are asking this question, tells me more than you think.

Answer 9

Don't give him a chance. He is a control freak. END IT NOW!!! These types only get worse.

He has given you every sign that he is going to make your life miserable in the future. By the way, secure men don't try to control women.

He could also be projecting; in other words, he wants to play around and he is assuming you want to do the same.

Answer 10

He sounds like he's definitely jealous and controlling. Whether or not that could move up to abuse I don't know. You like to hang out with other guys (that's your prerogative) and he doesn't want you to . You like to wear skirts whenever you like (a very acceptable activity) he wants the skirts for his eyes only. You want to know if other people think you're hot and he doesn't want you to know that. This a relationship that doesn't work. Dump him and move on.

Answer 11

You are marketing your *** on the web and going over to guys houses and think he is controlling. Yeah he has the potential to become abusive under these circumstances but then most would. If you want to be a hoe leave him alone.