2007-02-17 03:27:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't. Obviously he likes it or he wouldn't be with her.
2007-02-17 03:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it from the phrasing of the question that this is not your mother you're talking about here.
If that's the case, you should be careful. It's quite possible that he'll think you've got misgivings about him remarrying or have something personal against her. I'd prepare for this quite carefully and then just say you wanna talk to him one on one. Maybe a walk or just in a room when she's not there. Its possible he doesn't mind it as much as you do as well, but perhaps a wake up call isn't a bad thing. Just make sure of your motives and how you bring this to him gently instead of just hitting him in the face with it. Some tact will go a long way here I'm sure.
Good luck.
2007-02-17 03:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by xane76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to sit him down alone...take him somewhere special...if she will let him go without her. If you need to have your siblings there as well, that would be good. Just have an open and honest heart to heart with him. But, don't ever say us or her!!! This will only hurt more in the end for all involved!
anyway, if you can't get him away from her because she really is that controlling...wait a little while trying by asking him "how about tonight" every night...then in a couple of weeks...go talk to him...with her there even! Say...why are you avoiding me? Why can't we go out? What have I done...throw the guilt trip and if she chimes in, basically say listen, i am talking to MY DAD, whom i love very much...i am not talking to you. He is able to make up his own mind and i do not understand why you are trying to shut us out of his life! Make her look bad...show him exactly what she is doing!!!
other than that...he will eventually see unless she poisons him b4 then!
2007-02-17 03:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by k t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her controlling him, is something he will have to deal with. Her controlling the family is something the family can deal with. Stand up to her and let her know that she might be able to push your Dad around, but the line has been drawn! I have a sister-in-law like this. She has destroyed any relationship my brother ever had with his family...he "clings" to her, defends her in every way...It's sad. They have no friends and their grown children stay away from them.
2007-02-17 03:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was/am in the same boat, and I did tell him. Did it change things? Yes it did, it made them more strained and confusing. It left an uncomfortable rift between us that still exists (10 years later). Do I feel better about it? Yes, because I got it off my chest and learned even more about myself and the relationship I want to have with my children from it. We are all different, and the reactions may be different for you, but I would suggest you do it. You can only live for yourself and YOUR family. Good luck.
2007-02-17 03:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by yetiusmc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at why you think that. Are you rebelling against his new wife because your angry about his divorce or how he went about meeting her perhaps??? I dont know think about it and maybe you should have a conversation with both of them. Counsiling perhaps??? Part of keeping a family together is putting effort into. Some take more than others.
2007-02-17 03:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by moonlitocean2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him your feelings he may not agree at the time but it will all play out. I wish my 4 boy would have told me thier feelings about my second wife at the time she was controlling and only out 4 her best intrest.you will always be his blood so speak up
2007-02-17 03:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that is wife is controlling his life. i think hes been married to her long enough, that its best leave things as they are. Maybe you think shes controlling him. but she's not. its called marriage, and you learn to live with it. I'm sure he has his reasons.
2007-02-17 03:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably looks bad from where you see it. But if your dad is miserable, he is a grown up, he can handle it. Let him run his own life. Unless he actually comes to you for help or support, then leave it alone.
2007-02-17 03:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't because he already knows and he isn't willing to do anything about it.
2007-02-17 03:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by zaphodsclone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋