dresses???? Icouldn´t believe my eyes and didn´t like it at all, especially because one of the dresses could be mistaken for a wedding dress... I didn´t tell anyone not to wear white, but I thought that was common knowledge and sense..I think the least they could have done was asking me before the wedding if it´d be OK with me and I´d hve said no...
2007-02-17 03:23:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the only excuse I can think of, was that it was a summer wedding and really hot, but still thee are so many colours you can wear in summer...
2007-02-17 03:24:12 · update #1
I know they didn´t do it on purpose to hurt my feelings (because they never do), but still felt hurt....it was my father who told one of them (the one wearing a dress some girls would actually get married in) Are you the bride??? so I hope at least she realised her mistake...I was just really disappointed because there were not 1, but 3 of them in white dresses, and I only had 4 girlfriends coming to my wedding (I got married abroad)
2007-02-17 04:12:15 · update #2
I would be pissed.... I would throw like punch on them to make their dresses red or somethign... sorry that this happened.. but congrats on getting married!
2007-02-17 03:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's ridiculous. It is common knowledge that only the Bride wears white. I don't want to criticise your friends but that was a horribly bad decision on their part. You shouldn't need to discuss the fact that you wanted to be the only woman wearing white. Anyway it's probably not worth bringing it up now since the wedding is over. If I had been a guest at your wedding I would have laughed at them so I'm sure the rest of your guests felt the same. I hope you had a great day, and remember that nobody looks better than the bride no matter how hard they try.
2007-02-17 11:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't worry. It was lovely that they followed you abroad for your wedding. You said they haven't purposely hurt you in the past. Also, unfortunately in this day and age many people don't know a faux pas from a fuzzy paw. Many parents of this younger generation forgot to pass along some of the "social rules". They may have never heard of such a thing. And, even though it seems like common sense, maybe it wouldn't occur to them until they got there and kinda thought "oops". Or maybe they just love you and think you are so beautiful and were so happy for you they never would have it enter their heads.
Let it go, you will laugh at how niave and uninformed your girlfriends were when you are 50. OH, and teach all the rules to your kids! I sure am trying!!
Congrats on your wedding.
2007-02-17 13:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rackjack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Not happy at all but not mad enough to ruin friendships. Some things just are not worth ruining your special day over. Friends wearing white to your wedding, brother in law DJ who screwed up his job (happened at my wedding), food coming late, etc.... When it comes down to it, the most important event that day-to marry the love of your life-happened. Every thing else is just fluff.
If you feel comfortable you can talk to them about it, maybe you girls can agree not to wear white to eachothers weddings (if your other friends are unmarried). I think what they did it tacky but forgivable. If they are true friends then they made poor choices but not with intentions to hurt you. They would probably be sad to find out it hurt your feelings.
Hey, there are so many other things that can go wrong at a wedding and many brides and grooms manage to make the best of it. I heard of a photographer that blew out some candles after a ceremony (he should have used a snuffer-is that what it is called?) and the smoke from all the candles set off the fire alarm. Guest ran out the church becuase of the screaching alarm and the fire department showed up.
The bride and groom had fun with it and aksed permission to take pictures sitting and standing all over the fire truck. They actually made for some great photos.
A photographer that my husband knows said that right when the wedding party left the church and walked across the street to a park for their reception a flash flood hit. They all ran into a super market for cover. The super market became the background for all the wedding party pictures. They took funny ones with the groomsmen starring into the frozen food section. Funny stuff.
So, when you consider all the crazy things that can go wrong at a wedding I think your went pretty smooth. Forgive those naive friends or yours. Educate them for the future, and keep your freindships.
By they way. Congratulations on your special day.
Oh, and to the person who suggested you consider yourself pure to wear the wedding dress: what the heck?
True, not all brides are "pure" if you mean virgins. Actually most are not. But, ALL brides deserve to wear white. Virgins or not.
There are actually some brides who are virgins on their wedding day. I for one was. Do not assume that all brides are not. The origional person who asked the question may be "pure" in the context that you meant. I think it is an insult to automatically assume she is not.
2007-02-17 11:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by Triplescoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give your friends the benefit of the doubt and say it was pure ignorance as opposed to maliciousness and stupidity. Many women have one really nice dress for a season and summer dresses are often white so maybe they didn't even think about the etiquette of not wearing the same color as the bride and just figured that was their good dress. If they're good friends, try to forgive them and move on. The possible loss of an otherwise good friend isn't worth it.
2007-02-17 12:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should have known better. Ignorance is a terrible excuse for not knowing the proper dress protocol for the most important day of a close friend's life. But probably the most important thing to do, if you want to keep your friends, is address the situation and move on. It's over and done with and you got married! So think about the positives.
2007-02-17 11:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by kaitlyn.roberts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amused. It's my wedding - everyone who's anyone knows WHO the bride is! I might be a little embarrassed for them because it's so tacky of them and an obvious grab for attention, like they can't stand to not be the bride... but I wouldn't bother being annoyed. If I were a catty type, I might tease them about it later: "Hey, that dress you wore was really lovely, it is so, uh, wedding-y... haha... I hope you'll let me wear MY wedding dress to YOUR wedding, too, so I can get more than one use out of it!"
2007-02-17 11:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by zilmag 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it IS common knowledge that only the bride wears white (I don't care how hot it is). I would be annoyed, but it is your friends who looked ridiculous wearing white to a wedding, not you. Somehow I doubt you have 3 friends dumb enough not to know of this custom. I'm thinking they were trying to steal your thunder, or trying to make you look a fool, when all they succeeded in doing was to look foolish themselves.
2007-02-19 23:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your initial reaction in that I would think it is common knowledge that the only one wearing white that day is the bride! I'm sorry that these 3 girls were too immature to realize that on your special day!
2007-02-17 11:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by kubbyp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many old traditions are out the door. Unless you specified it...you shouldnt be angry about it. No matter if everyone wore white..YOU were the one everyone came to see. Dont be angry with them. It really is not common sense anymore..its just an old tradition and now a day you must be specific when it comes to wedding related issues.
2007-02-17 11:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. Everyone should know that the bride is the ONLY one who can wear white at HER wedding! If it were me, I would have had them escorted out.
2007-02-17 11:33:51 · answer #11 · answered by bananacherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋