okay. my sister, couple years older than me. and she just got out of rehab for being a druggie. my parent give most of the attention to her, but they cant stand her at the same time. and my lil brother. yeah, they also give a bunch of attention to him. they're not giving me a confirmation party but they're giving him a first comminion party. my confirmation and his first communion are in the same year. but my parents are like, only planning his and im not getting one.
they like, dont love me.
2007-02-17 03:20:05 · 6 answers · asked by JamieLynn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have been the hated sibling, due to attention that I received from my parents because I had cancer growing up. My advice to you is to please address it as a family. Talk to your family with a open mind and heart and not out of pain, make your feelings clear to your siblings and parents, trust me do it, my family is still dealing with issues and my siblings and I are grow now. It is hard to be the child in the middle but be open about how it makes you feel cause these issues will follow you in life if you don't address them. Best of luck to you.
DRD
2007-02-17 04:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Simply DeAnna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been a parent for a long time, and I can tell you that it's difficult for parents to figure out how kids get this idea that we love one kid more than the other. If one kid is going through a lot of problems and another kid isn't, parents feel like the kid with problems represents an emergency situation. I have mistakenly felt that the kid who wasn't having problems understood completely. (In an emergency situation, you sometimes look at that kid without problems as a third parent.)
The confirmation, first communion party thing is a separate issue. You need to find out why this decision was made. Perhaps if your parents know that you feel that confirmation is an important event, like first communion, they will change their plans and either have a party for you too, or have a combined party for you and your brother.
Please tell your parents, in a diplomatic way, that you are getting the impression that you are third on their list.
2007-02-17 03:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get upset with your siblings because your parents aren't treating you in a way you want. It's not their fault. Try to understand that your older sister is in a fragile time being right out of rehab, so they're going to have to really pay close attention to her right now. Give it time, they're worried about her. Talk with your parents. Let them know that you're feeling second or third best. Tell them you'd like to have a confirmation party. They don't read minds so talk with them. Don't be confrontational, just tell them how you feel, but not a list of everything they're doing wrong, in your opinion. If it's hard to talk with them, then write them a letter. Good Luck!
2007-02-17 03:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok like first of all Don't get one here calling your sister a druggie....I can honestly tell your just a kid still....Your parents and your brother and sister are the most important thing in your life...if something bad were to happen to one of them you would take back all the bad things you have ever said....sounds like mom and dad have there hands full with a sister with problems that need attention...you need to be patient with them...your parents do love you more then you will ever know...so cut them some slack will ya....good luck to you
2007-02-17 06:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, why don't you sit down and talk to your parents and if they don't understand you break out crying. Your parents need to understand they have more than just two children so open thier eyes to see that.
2007-02-17 03:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u talk to him?
did they know how much u feeling bad?
explain to him and i am sure they will understand u. good luck
2007-02-17 03:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋