My best friend started to date this guy i have liked for like 3 years and i can't get over him. HELP!!!?

Question

him and i have bin like really go friends sance he came to my skool in 3rd grade and i started to like him more and more and now he is datin my best friend and i think she wants me to get over him and i wana move on but i cant. please help me.

Answer 1

Let yourself off the hook. You have every right to feel whatever you need to feel. Some best friend...what is SHE thinking. Did she not care about your feelings to begin with, to go out with a guy that she knew you had liked for soon long? You might want to rethink how good of a friend she really is.

Then again, if the guy really likes HER, and just considers you a friend, then you have to decide if his friendship is worth keeping, or else you need to pull completely out of the scenario. People can't help who they fall for. But they can control how they choose to deal with it.

Were you and this guy closer than your best friend was to him? Or, did she get to know him through you in the first place? You never know, once he sews enough of his wild oats, he may turn to his lifelong friend and realize who she really is. You just have to decide how important maintaining his friendship really is to you.
Good luck.

Answer 2

First have you ever told your Best Friend how you felt over Guy? Secondly tell your Best Friend how you feel. Keep in mind she is crazy over her new boyfriend but I am sure over time she will figure out that her friendship is more important. Have you ever discussed in your friendship any rules ... When I was younger my friends and I had a rule if both of us liked the same guy and couldn't come up with a resolution that we BOTH would walk away from the guy. Honestly, is this relationship so serious that you want to lose your friend. You have feelings to and those feelings should be respected as should your friends feelings. My best advice tell your friend how you feel. This early into the relationship I am positive they are not thinking any long term marriage or anything. If you have felt feelings for this Guy for three years why have you not told him how you feel? Jealousy can be a huge "Friend Loss" ... Before you talk to your friend ask yourself IS THIS GUY WORTH IT? Yes, you have had feelings for him for three years and are shy. Communicate with your friend maybe you both can come up with an agreement that neither will date. You do have to keep your friends feelings on the table as well... If she breaks up with him for you, how will SHE feel if you start dating him?

Good Luck!

Answer 3

First of all, I'd like to let you know to watch your back on this friend of yours. Obviously she knew you liked him, and yet, she still went out w/him, that does not sound too friendly to me! Trust me, I've been hit right in the face w/this problem many times. For me, what I do is try to set my eyes on someone else. Even if you don't really like him, just try to keep telling yourself that you can and will get over the other guy. If he has known you all this time, and he didn't make a move, then I'd say he wasn't interested anyways. Second of all, just have a girls night in!! Invite a couple girls over to chill and watch funny movies all night long. I just woudn't recommend inviting your best friend. If you see her, it might remind you of him. The point is to 4get about him. I mean, they're just guys right?!!? I wish you good luck!!

Answer 4

That`s the way life is sweetie, You just got to except things for the way they are sometimes. If you guys were friends for three years and he never hit on you then he probably only wants to be friends. I`m thinking your about 6 grade. Lets see...
He probably didn`t hit on you because he was shy. The reason he is maybe with the other girl is because she gave him some kind of sighn that she likes him. Boys at that age are worried about their social image very much and may not be as comfortable and confident as they could be about thdeir self. If a boy gets teased by his friends because he likes a girl and he made a move on her and she rejected him, that kind of thing could be a very big deal to a boy at that age. I think also that boys are sometimes more shy then girls at that age and If you have some other boy that you might like latter on, don`t be worried about giving him the idea that you like him. chances are he will like you too. That way you don`t have to like someone again for three years only to see him hook up with another girl because she made the first move.
You know what... Your going to have plenty of time for boys. Don`t get so involved in the way you feel about a boy that it has you feeling the way you feel right now. You should be worried about other things like, how am I going to get to the movies before the movie starts or getting good grades and maybe wondering about what you want to be doing when your an adult like college or a carreer. Or just something that won`t stress you out like you are now. Another thing is... I must warn you, a relationship between two people is great but it is also something that can be very very stressfull if things are not going right and unfortunately, You are going to somewhere down the line experience a broken heart and let me tell you...there is no worse feeling then that. It will make you feel so bad and it may feel so strong that it will never get better. No one ever told me that stuff when I was a young person. I was sort of shy and didn`t start going out with girls untill I was 17. If I would have at your age and knowing what I know now, I would consider NOT getting heavy feelings about someone else because it can keep you from the things that are more important to yourself for the way the rest of your life will be. You are going to have lots of boyfriends in life so don`t think you will be left out. So don`t be in such a hurry to get there when it`s other things that should be a priority.
I wasn`t trying to tell you relationships are bad because they are not. It`s just that they can be controlling so much that you no longer think with your brain, you start thinking with your heart and trust me, this is experience here... Your heart (my heart) tells me what to do because I want to make things right in my relationship when they are wrong and normally I find that If I were thinking clearly I would have done it differently. Thinking with your brain = good
thinking with your heart = not good. That`s my own personal oppinion from my experiences. It`s not something you plan on it`s just the way a relationship can be. I am allways learning and hopefully allways continue to do so because nobody starts off as a pro. Every relationship is different so you just have no choice but to learn as you go.Just think with your brain as much as possible and you will be more likely to make a rational decision. Just try to remember that okay.

Answer 5

Ooh. That kind of situation is one of the worst case scenarios I know. Don't worry, though. My advice is to take your mind off him by shopping with your friends (which includes your bestfriend). Talking to your bestfriend produces huge results as well. Make sure not to hold a grudge on your friend. Chances are, they're going to think you are immature and unreasonable. Don't try to break them apart either.

Just talk to your friend or try to stay away from thinking about them together. Otherwise, you could always go boy shopping for another cute guy.

Answer 6

i'd incredibly date a woman 3 years older than me, age incredibly is in basic terms a volume. as long as you think of of diverse guy or woman is mature and makes you satisfied thats all that concerns.

Answer 7

how old r u again ?? grade 6??? come on their r so much hotter and cuter guys in high school. But if u think he is ur guy then .................there is nothing u could do ......maybe be around them alot show that u r a funer and nicer person than ur bestfriend that's what is takes is ugly, sorry that the really world.

Answer 8

well just try and move on.Obviously he is not the one for you i am sure you will find someone special for yourself.Just give it some time and let the whole crush thing go.He goes out with ur best friend and their is no need to ruin a friendship because of a guy.Best of Luck!!!!

Answer 9

Your friend should have never dated him if she knew how you'd feel about that. Regardless of how they got together they are together and you'll have to move on. I don't date the ex's of my best-friends because I am a good friend.

Answer 10

Judging by your pitiful grammar and spelling, your efforts should be applied toward improving your English skills, and not toward boys, perhaps by hitting the books so to speak, you would soon forget about this boy wonder that you speak of...