how do get over a bf?

Question

okayy so wat happened was lik im not allowed to date..i donno my parents have issues..but my mom caught my bf infront of my house well his car and now hes lik im too scared and i think we should break up..its all so confusing beacuse that previous day he was saying how he wants to be together for a long time. how do i get over him and if he really dosnt want to be together how to i except that? plus we been off and on and im really gettin sick of it but at the same time i really love him =( i donno what to do..pleasee help me

Answer 1

As for your parents... they worry about you because they love you. Whether it's because of religion, morals, they may think you're not ready or if they think he's bad for you, they just want the best for you and don't understand how painful it can be to not let you make your decisions. Don't be too hard on them, they forget what it's like to be young.

Well, my dear, from previous experiece... if he's indecisive and he keeps pulling you back and forth, it just plays with you emotions. I had a guy do that. He said we were going to get married and blah blah blah, but whenever I tried to get close he pushed me away. I found out there was another girl and he just wanted to use me when HE wanted me. I'm NOT saying that is the case here, but don't let a guy pull you around and let him control you to where he gets you when HE wants you. A relationship consists of TWO people comprimising. When you find the right guy it will be beautiful. He won't make you cry, he won't confuse you, he'll be able to talk to you about what's really wrong and he'll make you smile.

How to get over him? Hang out with lots of friends! Meet new guys (but don't rush into anything.) Find out what you REALLY want in a guy. I always thought i knew, but I was too young. It took me forever to really find that out. Remember, DO NOT settle for any guy that is less than what you deserve!

Good luck.

Answer 2

oooooh, this really sucks! I went through the exact same situation that you have when I was a teenager. My parents didn't want me dating and I broke up with the poor boy probably about 3 times because of this issue. The way I see it, you have 2 options. You really can end it for good, and if you do, you really have to work hard at not calling him and not seeing him or going around to your old places. This just makes it harder and you need to let yourself "heal" so to speak. On the other hand, if your situation is like mine was, I couldn't get this guy out of my head and would always regret my decision. I lied a lot to my parents and found a way around it. I wouldn't reccomend lying, but I would suggest you talk to your parents. This is your second option. They were once teenagers too and had the same issuses. Maybe they just want to protect you from some of the experiences that they had, but that's all part of growing up! You might want to tell them how this is causing you to resent them. Also, see if your boyfriend would be permitted to spend more time with your family. If he really is a great guy, your parents might start to like him and feel more comfortable with your relationship. I hope this helps. Good luck sweetie!

Answer 3

let him go... next time you find someone you want to date talk to your parents about it. if ur ex bf doesnt want to be with you, the best thing to do is to keep yourself busy. go to the mall, hang out with friends, just try not to think of him. or you could write down everything that happened and hopefully at the end you will realize there are better guys out there! or what always helps is talking with friends or find a new crush. being in an off an on relationship isnt good for either of you.

Answer 4

Find a rebound boyfriend/boytoy. Focus on work/school things that can help you become independant. Independant women attact better quality men. There are always better prospects out there - don't buy into the "the one true love" - it's a myth. Love is something that needs to be worked on and isn't mystically ordained.

Answer 5

If u really love him u will let him go and u will figure it out on your own how to get over him. everyone does some thing different I love to hang out with the girls go to the movies, go out dinner or just spend time with them my girls are always there for me when i need them. There is no easy way of getting over a love the only thing i could say time heals all wounds

Answer 6

start up going places that the ex do no longer bypass to, tell your modern boyfriend which you relatively choose for time basically with him and not the different, or you won't left him in the 1st place simply by fact the three of you're spending lots time around one yet another, he can see his buddy whilst he isn't with you on the time. nevertheless it incredibly is kinda like a peculiar and wonderful relationship to be in. they might desire to be relatively cool approximately dealing with the actuality they the two had/have relationships with you. Makes one ask your self what they communicate approximately at times?

Answer 7

Right hun, first things first. Do not call him or anything! give him time to think and he may come back to you if that is what you want. If you want to move on from him though, the best advice for you that I have is to keep yourself busy, go out with your friends, and get dating again! its the best way to get over someone and fall in love with somebody else ! :)

Answer 8

You need to let him go altogether! No more off and on type relationship. Once you cut the tie to him, time will heal the wounds.

Answer 9

Firstly, you should ask yourself if you really want to get over him. But since you say you really love him, I don't think the answer is you really want to break-up with him. This may just be temporary but if its getting serious just follow what your heart says and get over it asap.

Answer 10

yes, you are too young to date. as far as anything else, i'm afraid that i'm too confused by the run on sentences to answer.