2007-02-17 02:40:25 · 13 answers · asked by chardonnayormerlot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
An ultimatum should only be used as a last resort. If the issue is serious enough to end a relationship and other approaches have not worked, then an ultimatum may be in order. Otherwise they should not be used.
2007-02-17 03:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but not a good idea I think. The person giving the ultimatum thinks this will make the other person change and do what they want because they will want to stay in the relationship. Usually, it makes the person receiving the ultimatum defensive and bolt.
If you've truly come to a place where something has to be done I think it's better to say---look, you keep doing this and it hurts me or I don't like it, etc. I care about you but can't take the things you are doing and I think have to stop seeing you. And then do it. Then the other person can decide whether or not they want to change things on their own. If they don't you haven't wasted any more time on them and if they do it will be better because you didn't force a change.
2007-02-17 02:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! However, it depends on what kind of ultimatum you're giving them. If you don't like the fact that your partner has some unproductive hobby that you see as a waste of time, that might not be worth it. We all have personal intrests and need for room in a relationship and no matter who we date, this will always be an issue. If the ultimatum has to do with a destructive habit, such as illegal drugs, exessive drinking, gambling, or one that lowers your value (think blatant flirting with somebody else, trying to look at porn behind your back), then absolutely. By doing this, you are not only helping your partner by giving them the motivation to get back in line, but you're also being true and treating yourself with the respect you deserve. If the problem really is that serious, you can also try to help your partner out by finding some sort of therapy or counselling. A lot of people sometimes just need a loving hand to help put them back on track!
2007-02-17 02:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the ultimatum. If you feel that it is an unreasonable ultimatum, then I would say yes, it is wrong to do that to someone you love.
2007-02-17 02:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Karma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it is not wrong because some circumstances call for ultimatums. Not just with couples but with people in general!!
2007-02-17 02:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. i gave one to my man and told him you can either lose your ex/f*ckbuddy as a friend or me and your son. and who do you think he chose? me and his son. there are just some people that you cannot remain friends with in life and people like that are one of them.
see we broke up after we found out i was pregnant and he quickly started seeing another girl, then towards the end of the pregnancy he came to his senses and dropped her, but she was emotionally attatched and asked to remain friends and he told her yes. she still came around thru the phone asking to hang out and stuff and having "moments of weakness" but i quickly put a stop to that. i hope this helps, but i really dont know what kind of ultimatum you were talking about. good luck hun
2007-02-17 02:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by christopher_austins_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This female isn't waiting for marriage. You mentioned you opt to sit down down together with her and communicate approximately significant subject concerns on your lives and he or she does not? that's unlikely to away, wager what existence is complete of those subject concerns and it won't get much less confusing. To me it relatively is decrease and dry, she needs to come across yet another guy! additionally, you mentioned you settle continuously yet she looks no longer too. This too won't get greater powerful as she now thinks she does not ought to compromise considering she consistently gets her way. This union ought to you proceed with that's going to lead to divorce, so i think of you're greater powerful off without her. in case you settle continuously and get no longer something in return you will quickly sense cheated and envious. finally, 6 months is purely too quickly, so do no longer do it!
2016-10-15 12:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people that give ultimatums usually wind up getting mad or hurt because they dont get what they want!
2007-02-17 02:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, maybe she deserve it...when somebody gives u an ultimatum u surely had done something bad and u must understandt that thing....
2007-02-17 02:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only wrong but also plan crazy because doing that leads to a no win solution to a problem.. if you wanted to do it then he wouldnt had to confront you on it.. whatever it is its your choice so good luck and think hard on it before deciding...
2007-02-17 02:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by bobby_2_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋