I was with this girl for 2 years and she broke up with me out of nowhere. She said that it didn't feel the same, even though we had fun no matter what we did. She broke up with me on a Sunday and never called or texted me or nothing and acted like I didn't exist even though I was like her best friend for 2 years. I find out within 3 days that she is with someone else and she lied to me. Now she has a myspace page that says she loves him and will be with him for the rest of her life and crap like that. She has only been with him for less than a week! I have done the no contact thing with her for about a week, and I even told her that I'm fine with her being with him, but I want her to be carefull because I have never touched a drink or done drugs in my life. This kid has been arrested before and is known for drinking. I also heard that they don't even really talk all that much. Could she be trying to get me jealous? Didn't she break up with me? and will no contact work?
2007-02-17 02:22:58 · 14 answers · asked by Phila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wanted someone more exciting. You don't have a wild side, and she wants to experience that side of life. I hate to tell you this man, but if a nice guy wants to keep a woman, he's gonna keep one that treats him like dirt. You have to learn how to mistreat a woman without going too far...It's a fine line to walk, but, when you learn to walk it, you'll do much better.
She may come back around and come back to you, but I wouldn't wait around to find out. Go out, have a little fun. Try a little booze, try a joint. They aren't bad for you if used responsibly.
2007-02-17 02:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by badbadboy6979 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its not your duty to make sure she is safe. Continue to have no contact with her. She didnt just meet this guy right after she broke up with you. No contact will do 2 things, either she will come to her senses, or you will get far enough away that you will move on. Time heals all. DO NOT CONTACT HER. Don't assum,e because she has little contact with that guy that you are still in the game. No matter how much you feel you need to, ignore her. If you start thinking about her, think of something else or find something to do. Take it from someone who has been there. Calling will only make it worse. Anyway, If she is attracted to a loser like that, is she really the kind of person you want to be with?
2007-02-17 10:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grrr...How many times do I have to say this? Women are NOT attracted to WEAK MEN. She's not attracted to you anymore because you've allowed yourself to become a wussy in this relationship. It actually makes sense at this point that she's chasing a "bad boy"...he's a huge world of difference from you. She was bored with you, and he presents a challenge... it doesn't take a rocket scientist to do the math here. This didn't happen out of nowhere. It's time for you to come to grips with denial, and man-up a bit. You've been uncerimoniously replaced, and yet you're still waiting around to "save her" from her mistakes, which you know she's making because nobody will ever love her like you did...am I right? Think about how pathetic that is for a moment.
Q. Could she be trying to get me jealous?
A. She couldn't care less. She's attracted to him.
Q. Didn't she break up with me?
A. Yes. Get over it.
Q. Will no contact work?
A. Seems to be working fine for her. You're the one playing amateur detective here. Before you turn into a full-blown stalker, step away from it and spend a little time working on your insecurity issues. Get your confidence back in order, and learn from the experience.
2007-02-17 10:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by woobinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me I think that she is only exploring her options, she wants to try something different for a while, that's why she's fallen "in love" so quickly because she hasn't tried someone like him before. She'll soon realize the mistake that she has made and will probably most likely come back to you, but right now she's out having fun in a new way, a "dangerous" way that you never showed her.
2007-02-17 10:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well There's a million things she could be doing by breaking up with you #1 she Just i over with you after all all good things must come to an end #2 This could all just blow over after she finally gets it through her head that she wouldn't like to be with this druggie and she'd rather be with someone safer. #3 Girls can like tough guys OK if she would rather be with him because she thinks that it makes her cooler than live with it.........So at this point the only thing you can do is just tell her how much you love her and that you really think that she is making a big mistake because if she gets caught with this guy when he is doing something wrong then it's over for the both of them because if that guy goes down he is taking her down with him because he obviously doesn't care about her.
2007-02-17 10:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Hayden W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That relationship will not work out... you sound like a really nice guy that cares about your ex and still loves her, so tell her taht when her new bf isnt around... she will come back to you in a very short while... just wait. Good luck 8)!
2007-02-17 10:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by xEmoxKidx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl like to take chances, and has no sense of what is good for her. I'd just forget about her. Personally I don't think she could be trusted very much after this.
2007-02-17 10:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
`forget about her u need to find the right one for u and u only.The sooner you know the person and know how they are the sooner you can find the right person for you. Tell her what u thing about him and tell her that you are about her and don't want her to get hurt.Now u go look out there in the world for your someone
2007-02-17 10:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me your a nice guy and she likes the losers in life...I'd let her go...and when he beats the snots out of her just say ooops....she picked him not you....I don't think she is trying to make you jealous...yes no contact will work....she will find out in the long run that she made a mistake...but for now let her go and find a better girl then her...
2007-02-17 10:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by futurecreationsusa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its quite normal for the person who walks out not to get in touch, that is exactly what she is doing, shes moving on with her life, suggest you do the same
2007-02-17 10:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋