Is this wrong to do to a child?

Question

The other day I was at my cousin and her husbands house. Their 6 year old son was mad at something and while I was in the bathroom he threw a glass cup on the floor in anger and shattered it. I walked past the boy's room and the door had a little crack in it. He had the back of his pants and underwear pulled down and his father spanked him about 8 times. I felt bad for him. Do yall consider this abuse?

Answer 1

Any form of punishment should fit the crime. I'm with Dad on this one as a 6 year old should know better than throw a glass. The boy got what he deserved. No! this was not abuse.

Answer 2

no.
a child needs to learn appropriate behaviour, and throwing a fit, and shattering glass is not appropriate. i don't believe in beating your children to the point where they have bruises, or other markings, but a spanking on the butt when they do something wrong is a perfectly normal way to teach discipline and that it will not be tolerated. the kid will grow up a better person for it, and will learn to respect his parents and other adults along the way. children have to learn that they do not run the show, the parents are the ones in charge and sometimes it takes more than just talking to them to get the point across. other children are different and learn by speaking to them, but others just don't get it, and don't like the consequence of their butt being warm from a little spanking when they do something bad, therefore they may think twice before doing it again.

Answer 3

No, i don't think that would be abuse. But in the same some parents extend a lil far on a spanking, as i have seen brushes, pancake turner, rulers so forth and now that would be in the category of abuse by children's protective services. you know yrs ago we took a spanking and learned from it, but now days the law doesn't allow much as to spankings, but yet you see the change in the children because of those who don't discipline now days verses 20 yrs ago . my personal belief is a spanking on the bottom isint a bad thing, its when it extends to other parts on the child's body, like back, legs, head so forth that i believe is abuse.

Answer 4

Yes. I remember being spanked as a kid but I can't always remember why I was spanked, only that I was hit. This makes me wonder just how effective spanking is. Why is the behind so different from the face??? Is it that the rear doesnt show in public as much, I have enough skill to hit a kid in the face without causing permanent damage so why aim for the a$$???, to keep it hidden, but why hide something that's supposedly O.K..

Answer 5

Well, considering the fact that if I had done what that child did, I would be spanked too. Maybe not with the pants down, because I was not spanked that way, but still. It's unacceptable. And "talking" to the child about that kind of behavior is not going to work. .(like one of the answers said). If I had been "talked to" like "Please honey dont do that again, it hurts daddy's feelings", I would have probably laughed and did it again.

It's not your kid, and unless he left bruises or drew blood, there's nothing you can do about it depending on where you live. I know where I live it's perfectly legal to spank a child at home, as long as you aren't leaving bruises. And the police will tell you that if the child or someone else calls the police.

My opinion, he deserved it.

Answer 6

The child definitly needs some form of discipline and if thats how they choose to do it, then so be it. So many people believe spanking is abuse, but some children need it, time out just doesn't work. I think if he slapped the kid across the face, or slapped him behind the head, that would be abuse, but spanking his bum is not abuse, they need to crack down on this child now before he gets older and out of control. Plus you should not be sticking your nose in their business, if that is how they discipline their child and it works, then so be it. What would you of done? Sat him and down and tell him what he did was wrong and he has to sit in time out, and when hes done, go and play? Whats he going to get out of that? A spanking is a memory that will last, and he will learn not to do it again.

Answer 7

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks just what the law thinks as they are the only ones who can do anything about it and no spanking a child differs from beating the child and it is not abuse. Some people choose to use what I refer to as "corporal punishment" on their children and as long as they keep it under control and are not "knocking the crap" out of their kid or using unnecessary force it is their business. However that kid is displaying his anger or frustration probably in much the same ways as the parent or parents display theirs

Answer 8

Although most people think first of physical abuse when they hear the term, physical abuse makes us 25 percent of reported cases. It is defined as physical injury inflicted upon the child with cruel and/or malicious intent, although the law recognizes that in some cases the parent or caretaker may not have intended to hurt the child; rather, the injury may have resulted from over-discipline or physical punishment. Physical abuse includes punching, beating, kicking, biting, burning, shaking, or otherwise harming a child. Fatal injuries from maltreatment can result from many different acts, including severe head trauma, shaken baby syndrome, trauma to the abdomen or chest, scalding, burns, drowning, suffocation, poisoning, etc.

The situation as you describe it is not abuse, although I wouldn't do this to my child. There are many theories out there that try to explain how it is best to deal with a misbehaving child.. it is hard to decide which one to adopt. I personally believe in explaining to the child what he did wrong and time-outs. But consider that parents may sometimes not take into consideration other methods of discipline as they are more "time consuming" and require a lot more patience on their part.

Answer 9

No, I do not consider this abuse. Spanking works for some people and for some people it does not. Eight times may have been a little much, but the child did do something bad. My oldest daughter is 6, and I can't imagine her doing something like that.

Answer 10

No, However 8 times may be pushing it. Our pain thresh hold for our hands is a lot higher then a 6 year olds butt, this doesnt mean get a belt or paddle, but you should only have to do it long enough for him to get the idea of the punishment. If it take s 8 then fine, but be cautious on making more repitions a habit, this is how child abuse spawns to later years when dealing with a wild teen.