If a woman happens to have a crush on a guy, but the guy is really not up to the offer, why should he do?! without hardfeelings!!!
2007-02-17 02:08:57 · 28 answers · asked by Holmes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What should he do?
Sorry about spelling!
2007-02-17 02:12:38 · update #1
Ok so there has been some great advise here already. And some horrible advise but thats another issue....
SHE has a crush on YOU. It is your reaction to this crush that will have a lasting affect on her emotionally and on her self esteem. This is true whether the girl is model thin and beautiful or fat and homely. Girls have feelings---all of us. You will need to be honest with her and you will need to be tactful and respectful of her feelings.
Will you be remaining friends with her? If so, then you will need to put a lot of thought into your response. For instance, you may say something like this: I absolutely love that we can talk for hours on end about everything. Your sense of humor is classic. I truly enjoy the time that we spend together. I know that you want our relationship to be more than this fantastic friendship. Feelings are neither right nor wrong, they just are. You can't control who you are attracted to anymore than I can control who I am attracted to romantically. And I'm sorry but I am not attracted to you in a romantic way." (modify with words that you would actually say and things that you actually feel about her)
Then let her process that info and respond. Be prepared for a short conversation about it. Always remember that her feelings are vulnerable and her view of dating is at stake. Handle with ultimate care and sensitivity. She will thank you for your honesty and allowing her to maintain integrity.
If you do not plan to remain friends, use the same type of talk--she deserves respect and courtesy.
Good luck.
2007-02-17 02:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he should tell the woman that he isn't interested - i've been through this - i liked a guy...things didn't go so well for me - i wish he had told me to get lost, i would've saved alot more of my dignity. but every situation is different - it depends on the person you are dealing with - whether or not she can deal with the rejection. some people go down the lets be friends route - but then you wonder how that friendship will work - because you may always be thinking that she still has feelings for you...also, you may be holding her back - so methinks, just be honest - in a nice way...
2007-02-17 02:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by Dark_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That your heart belongs to someone else. I think most women wont step on another woman's territory.
Even if you don't have another woman in mind telling her you do and your so attracted to this mysterious woman and she don't even know you exist and about to make your move. This gal may understand and perhaps back off. Besides, that also leaves the door open if you decide to change your mind about real woman A instead of fake woman B.
I used this one and it worked on more than one occasion.
2007-02-17 02:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are LOTS of men who are really picky and they absolutely will NOT date a fat chick, or a black chick, or a brunette, etc, etc..
There is nothing wrong with liking and disliking a certain type of man/woman.
But if you dislike her because she is FAT, then you better not tell her that reason. Just say, "I don't see any type of future between us, and I just wanna be friends." Be nice, but be firm and don't let her think that there might be a *chance* with you, if you really do NOT want her.
Cheers
2007-02-17 02:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her about being gay......... no really I know where you are coming from... I will only be happy with a woman that takes care of herself and weighs less than 120 lbs, but most woman that take an interest in me are like 200lbs, so I just hang out with the skinny girls, the big girls get jealous and leave ya alone then.
2007-02-17 02:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you're just not ready for a relationship at the moment. That should let her down gently and hopefully she will understand.
2007-02-17 02:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by sketch_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the girl how he feels an a nice way and be honest it will help everyone that is involeso they have the real truth andmaybe they can all move on if they can or give it time
2007-02-17 02:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by keyshia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be kind. Say you are flattered but you are not looking for a relationship with her. Don't say why or what's wrong with her. Just explain that it's impossible to explain why we are attracted to others and the flame just isn't there.
2007-02-17 02:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
I read your "profile", you must be Australian... Nice.
Say this magic phrase ..."Girl, sorry, but no feelings involved".
Then ignore her, forever. One day (maybe 4 years later) ... but one day, she will realize, she is not your type. She is not what you want, she is not what you need ... she is nothing in your life.
2007-02-17 02:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say tht you dont think tht u guys are good for each other and then say tht u want 2 try 2 be friends cuz she seems really nice.
2007-02-17 02:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋