me and my gf have been dating for almost 10 months. lately we've been arguing alot. she lives about 45 min away but we see each other just about everyday. alot of the time we argue about stupid stuff thats usually my fault. i dunno what to do. i know she loves me more than anything but somehow when i least expect it she starts to cry when we argue. i know shes tired of feeling like this and im tired of it too. but if we weren't together, i dont know what i would do. i'd rather try to fix it than to take a break. i go to church with her every sunday and im thinkin about talkin to the pastor tomorrow about maybe counseling us. does anyone have any better ideas?
2007-02-17 02:01:12 · 8 answers · asked by Desperate Help!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe try being alittle patient,and stop doing stupid little things to cause an argument. You should be able to sit down and talk to each other about your problems without fighting.Counseling is alittle premature since you to are only boyfriend and girlfriend,your not married that usually works for married people.Your only going through what most girls and guys go through, regular relationship ups and downs.Think about what you are going to say before you say it and maybe that might help before it becomes an argument.Sometimes people say things they don't mean before thinking about it,specially when it comes to someone they care about.Get together and really sit down and talk, no arguing.Ask her what she wants and tell her what you want. Good luck
2007-02-17 02:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only one that can stop the arguments is you --- so just stop ---- dont argue --- find the problem and resolve it by talking --- and counselling will only help if you want it to help -- you can do more by being willing to talk than by listening to someone else (generally what would a religious leader know about relationship problems??? they are not usually even married)
2007-02-17 10:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can talk to her. its better u know what she detest and why u guys keep arguing . in a relationship,arguing and fighting over petty things is very normal. but if it gets out of hand, talking to the other party is essential.plus, after u find whats wrong.. it'll bring u closer to one another.being open is also crucial.
2007-02-17 10:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by bunbananabun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww bless..
u dnt need to worry becuase since ur very sincere, devoted and lovin u two cant break up. u need to get her out on a day, and nt meet up 4 like 20mins evryday. maybe dats what getting to her, that shes not getting the attention and kind words she expects..
you both nmeed to sit doen and calmly tell each other u luv ach other. if she starts to argue, ignre it wiv a smile back, thatw ay the "fight" wnt even feel like one. thats wat happens to me n my fiance, if i wana argue he just talks more sweetly with me instead.
women hormones i tellya . lol.
nway.. gudluck.. i gtg or id av written more. u dnt need to break up with her. she luv u like mad. just talk to her. 4 get sex.- get cuddly and warm and intimate only. that way shel feel more wanted.
tkcr
2007-02-17 10:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Madam M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is cheating on you and feels bad about it but she dont want to stop seeing you at the same time she like more then one cock so deal ith it or find some one else.
2007-02-17 10:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, there must be something that is annoying her, talk , theres the better way to fix ur problems
2007-02-17 10:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Wendicita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt go for counseling yet... but i was with my xbf for about two years... you should think about it do you really treasure her? why dont you try leaving her a little note reminding her how much you care and love her...
2007-02-17 10:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Heather v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest to her and tell her every thing before you lose her and try to have so many arugments she could be the one for you and you dont want to lose her
2007-02-17 10:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by keyshia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋