I've been dating the same girl for at least 2 years. We have seriously fallen in love with each other. I am 22 and she is 22, we both graduated from university. The problem is that when her parents saw me at the graduation, and no, I wouldn't do anything that her parents wouldn't want me to do in front of them. Her parents doesn't want me dating her. I never cheated on her. I am really loyal and faithful to her. I asked her what she told her parents and she told nothing. I am really surprised that she didn't told her parents that we were dating. I love her very much. What should I do to get her parent's permission? What should I do? Ending the relationship with her is not an option. I love her too much for that.
2007-02-17 01:57:05 · 13 answers · asked by Kevin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have dated her for 2 years and have never met her parents until recently???
Didn't that concern you or through up the red flags???
There seems to me that there are more problems to your relationship than you think.
Good luck, but personally, I think your relationship is headed for failure.
2007-02-17 02:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think twice about that not ending the relationship thing. She has not been straight forward with either you or her parents. If they don't like you today, they may not like you 10 years form now, which makes life hard on a family, especially when there are kids involved.
Love alone is not what makes a relationship work, and is a ridiculous reason to prolong a relationship. Respect is at least as important if not more so. Does this girl respect you enough to stand up to her parents, to champion your cause, to even tell you the truth about why her parents don't seem to like you?
Unless parents are absolutely psychotic, the expect that one day their daughter will grow up and get married. There is a reason, they might not like you, and unless your girlfriend is a complete idiot she has a pretty good idea of why that is. So she is either being untruthful to you, or she has told you and you are being untruthful to us.
2007-02-17 02:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents probably like you, but are more concerned with their daughter's education and career goals. Sometimes we as parents think that if our young adult is dating, that it will get in the way of them achieving their goals. It is difficult for parents to let go and let their children grow up. We want the very best for them. So...don't take it personal...they are only looking out for the best interest of their daughter. You two must show her parents that while you are dating that you both will achieve and do what is expected from the both of you. It will take time and effort on both your parts to prove this to her parents.
2007-02-17 02:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know every situation is different. Maybe you should talk to your girl about this, sit her down and tell her how you feel and try to come up with a way to get her parents permission together. This can only bring you two closer in my opinion. If her parents see that their daughter has found something as rare as true love then they should be more than accepting of you they should be thrilled.
2007-02-17 02:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well make sure she did not tell her parents anything first. Parents are protective of their children so the only way I can think of is just express to them how much you love their daughter through your words and actions and tell them that you are glad that you met their wonderful daughter. Once they see your true love for her they will come around because they just want the best for her which is someone who loves her as much as they do. Give it some time.
2007-02-17 02:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The police won't be in a position to do something, except the father sends out a restraining order, the home is below his call. yet you will possibly desire to get to the inspiration of the problem. Why would not he such as you? What are you able to do to restoration it? For the meanwhile do basically no longer enable there be war of words, you ought to confirm the female buddy, if she needs to, she is grown. And for that he won't be in a position to declare something. She might desire to be the guy who has to confront her dad and have a extreme person communicate. NO whining, no foolishness, ect. persuade her of shifting out, being self sustaining. no longer with you yet, except the relationship is large extreme cuz in case you adult men destroy up, the place will she bypass? basically shop seeing her, and make sure she talks with him. in case you confer with him he will push you away. additionally advise that she gets a member of her kinfolk to agree together with her that way the dad will sense extra forced.
2016-10-02 07:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's typical for parents to not be able to let go of their "little girl". I would first try to find a way for them to see how special you are and how happy their "little girl" is with you. They should also notice that their girl has grown up and has the potential of running away with you... make sure they see the positive side of you and they will, eventually, learn to accept you and maybe even like you (unless you are a bad *** biker or sth; then you just take her far away with you and forget about her parents).
2007-02-17 02:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by urbanbard7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and they still dont like me. 9 yrs later. I was nice to them and everything, always polite yet they never liked me. The person I was dating just wouldnt even mention me around them because they were sick of hearing stuff I think. Sorry cant help you with this one, you can never win with the parents it seems, at least in my case. Id just go out with her anyway forget about them. I try to avoid them.
2007-02-17 02:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by Hunter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss with her parents to a family dinner. Convince your girlfriend to invite you there and then be natural and let her parents know you the way that you really are. Don't lie or pretend with anything! And tell them you have good intentions with their daughter and that you love her a lot.good luck!
2007-02-17 02:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask her why you have been dating for tow years and she never said anything to her parents about it. She either never told them so they don't agree and are being stereotypical or she has someone else at home and you don't know and that's why her parents are being weird. You'd think they would want to grab you up and know every detail about your life.
good luck
2007-02-17 02:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋