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I need some advice on how to get a girl friend. I am 22 years old & never had a girl friend or been on a date. I am about 5'6" 225 lbs, so I am obese, however not just a gigantic slob who doesn't care about himself. You can see pictures of me at http://www.aimpages.com/bikerlbf406/profile.html I am shy on going out to places as I don't have anyone to go with & feel I stand out of place. Also I work alot & do not get weekends off. I have friends, but they're all guys and I have no problem talking to guys but never seem to know what to say around females. Does anyone have any ideas how I can meet a female, start going out on dates & get a girl friend? I need help badly as I just don't know what to do, and its very embarrassing to be 22 years old and never been out on a date, never had a girl friend, have no female friends & never hugged or kissed a girl, or had sex.

2007-02-17 01:55:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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First of all, you need confidence!
You have a good looking face. But if you don't feel good about yourself, it will reflect on the rest of the world. People will pick up on your self esteem.... and if you have a low one, this is why women are staying away. It is a big responsibility for someone to always have to counsel you if every time you start pointing out your flaws and putting yourself down or even to hang your head down and feeling awkward about making eye contact.
So what you need to do is start getting to know yourself and start looking in the mirror and make some mental changes to motivate yourself into being the person you would like to be. It's not impossible for you! You already have good looks. You just need to enhance them so that you feel good about YOU.
Personality is important as well. If you want good relationships, you have to be a good person. Stand your ground and draw the line so that no one thinks they have the right to step all over you but be kind and treat people with love and respect. When you accomplish feeling good and secure about who you are, then you won't have a problem finding a good woman to date and possibly marry.

2007-02-17 02:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I used to be real shy around girls too. I used to see them as something to be afraid. I used to be afraid of being judged or laughed at. This is the obvoius advice, but be you and treat them like your guyfriends. I did that and I can actually talk to girls now. I used to have about 4 friends in middle school, and I would never talk. It took me about 2yrs., but now I almost completely comfortable talking to anyone. The other day I made the most beautiful brizilian girl laugh. Trust me, I know coming out of your shell is hard, but it is worth it. And no offense, but I've seen fatter with good looking girls. You have to hang out with people and get introduced, like webbing out. If you can get a good female friend, they could probably hook you up.

And work out, since you are large you'll become jacked. That will help get girls.
I'm not fat, but I lost 10lbs from running track. That could be an idea too.

2007-02-17 02:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tom 1 · 0 0

2 things. One. No matter what your work schedule is, find a way to spend 30 mins to an hour a day in the gym. Not only will it help you to lose a few pounds, it will do wonders for your self confidence and make you feel better. No excuses, you are young just do it.

Two - You gotta crawl before you walk. Start by just saying "hi" and be yourself. You dont know what to say? No one does. Its that hard for everyone. Follow step one, and you will see your confidence grow. Hope this helps.

2007-02-17 02:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by PuckDog 2 · 1 0

First, you must to control your feeling. Dont shy. Trying to make friends with the girls. Then, talk to them. Share your interests, maybe her interests same with u!
After that, if u think you get closer to her, ask her for a date (but the girl must single, ok?). And if u think she luv you too, (you can see her behaviours to u), u just say " I luv U..." Maybe she will answer the same thing you asked be4.

:)

2007-02-17 02:09:07 · answer #4 · answered by Pink_Phantom 3 · 0 0

hi, your present day female buddy would or will possibly no longer have a element. evaluate this: how would you experience in the adventure that your present day female buddy became into passing it sluggish with an ex boyfriend? whether you will think of that's ok she does no longer, and component of loving a individual is thinking what makes them experience uncomfortable and doing the different. changing and doing issues that yet another guy or woman likes does no longer inevitably advise which you're changing who you're; it only ability which you're taking yet another persons emotions, likes, or dislikes into attention. (many times while in a relationship which includes this, it incredibly is the case) My suggestion: shrink your touch with your ex female buddy. Your ex female buddy is on your previous and your present day female buddy is your present day. Am no longer saying or suggesting you're able to brush off your ex female buddy altogether yet your ex could be dealt with an identical way you will handle yet another guy buddy. (it is going to strictly only be friendship from afar; given the historic previous you adult men have with one yet another.) wish issues paintings out, and that i wish this suggestion helped.

2016-11-23 14:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yahoo Personals! You'll get yourself plenty of dates, and it's fun! Trust me.. I did it. There are actually a lot of GOOD looking people on there too! I had a LOT of attractive dates from that.

2007-02-17 02:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by E 5 · 0 0

say hello to every girl you come in contact with and go from there.

2007-02-17 01:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0 0

You cant make a g/f...........give it time. They always say good things come to those who wait.

2007-02-17 02:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by bette69 5 · 0 0

I have one advce go on myspace there u can meet alot of people . GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-02-17 02:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Aisha A 1 · 0 0

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