My mom always buys things that I want. Like she bot a RAZER cell phone that she didn't like. She said(I don't have enough money to buy that) to me. Yesterday she bot a IPOD I've been wanting that for a long time. She told me the samething like with the RAZER. I don't know what to do!!! I just think my mom is just doing that because she knows I want these things. I make better grades then my brother and sister and they're older then me. And they get things. I ned pants because I don't have a lot. My mom told me that I have to what because she DOESN'T HAVE ANY MONEY!!!!! But she got her pants!!! I don't know what to tell my mom. What should I tell her????
2007-02-17 01:53:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nothing appreciate what you get young lady.If need clothes ten say mom I need clothes and dont ask for all the other things.
2007-02-17 01:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called sibling rivalry, and it is as old as the hills.
It's not going to be easy to get your mother to change. You could offer to pay 50% of the cost of the item you want. This might appeal to her. Forget about comparing what you get in relation to your siblings. This is envy and jealousy and goes nowhere.
Sometimes, the only solution is time. When you are 18, you will be able to do almost anything you want. In the meantime express gratitude for having a home, getting regular meals, and for whatever attention you do get from your mom. Offer to help her with housework - this can go a long way in smoothing relationships between parents and children.
2007-02-17 10:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could tell her that you think it's very unfair she she goes out and buys the very things you ask for. However, it >is< her money. She doesn't have to lie to you, and tell you she doesn't have the money, then goes out and buys something, she's being very selfish, and it sounds like she's being a little spiteful. You're going to have to start saving your money, if you get allowance, or birthday money, or christmas, and start buying the things you want yourself. You're really in no position to tell your mom what she can and can't do with her money, but it certainly sounds like she's pulling a few mind games over on you. How sad...
2007-02-17 10:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously telling you that you're on your own so there isn't much you can tell her.
I'm very generous with my kids, but they are always helpful and appreciative and never ask for anything. I think that we have a unique situation there. My son is 17 and brings me tea or coffee, is helpful and kind and never asks for a thing, when he gets new cell phones, ipods, clothes, x-box or whatever he is very thankful and humble.
His attitude makes his dad and I happy to make him happy. Are you making your mom happy or just harping on her for things you want? She may be selfish and just doing things to get to you, but what are you doing to make her feel that way?
If you can't get things by asking get a job, sell some things, or make some other arrangements.
I'm thinking your attitude may have a lot to do with this, be honest with yourself. Remember in every dis functional relationship you have you are always the common denominator.
Good luck!
2007-02-17 10:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
It sounds like you need to think of a way to earn your own money. If mom isn't going to provide for you then you have to provide for yourself.
There are places called thrift stores that have nice clothes that haven't been worn to much. You can fing real bargains there... Sometimes cloths cost only $2 or $5 for pants.
I think people are misunderstanding your vocabulary.
They think you ARE getting these things. When really it is your OLDER siblings, AKA Sister and Brother.
2007-02-17 10:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she buying these things for you or for her? Okay she works and pays the bills. She can splurge on her self every once in a while. That is good that you get good grades, but do you clean around the house with out her asking? Do you keep your room clean? These are the things that parents look at also. Good grades just don't pay anymore.
2007-02-17 10:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I don't have any of those things. And I'm an adult! Should I be mad at your Mom too?
You don't need help, you need to set priorities. Sucks being a kid sometimes, huh?
People don't always get what they want. Sometimes they don't even get what they need.
Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter and get over yourself.
2007-02-17 10:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Karen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom your kinda being a little selfish. Is she trying to make you jealous cause that's what it sounds like. Go shopping with her and say mom can i have these jeans? I'll clean the house,or say i get good grades for nothing and my older brothers and sisters get what they want why not me?
Hope this kinda helps.
2007-02-17 10:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Michelly4you 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try not to demand anything from your mother, work hard, and don't nag, then when the time comes, bring it to her face, that you to is her daughter,
2007-02-17 10:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by aguilon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her wat u really feel and dont be that spoiled.
2007-02-17 09:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by smileyymee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋