I've been married now for 6 yrs and don't know if I should go.
2007-02-17 01:50:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you still friends? If yes then go, if not then I rethink about going, but maybe send a sympathy card.
2007-02-17 01:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Really ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of information missing from this question. I would say if you have been friendly over the 7 years, if you live in the same town and have commonalities among friends and families, if you share children with him or if your husband knows the ex personally you could go. There is no mandate requiring you to attend the funeral. I think your relationship to his father is more important than your relationship to your ex. Was his father a major figure in your life? Was he important to you?
If non of these things are present, send a card to your ex and his family letting them know you care and are thinking about them at this time.
If you still want to go (prior circumstances unimportant)... I would question if you may still have feelings for your ex.
2007-02-17 02:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by troyaj1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least go to the wake to pay my respect for the Deceased and then give the family my condolences and leave. Now if there was a violent streak to this ex or domestic problems it is a different story! Then I would stay away..Were you close to his dad when you both dated ?? My ex boyfriend from high school died in a horrible wreck years ago I had by then another relationship and when I heard about his wreck and that he had passed away a few days afterwords I went and paid my respect and his new wife was there nothing was harmed by me doing that. Use your judgment.
2007-02-17 01:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the relationship you had with your ex-bf father. If you had no meaningful conversations with the man and go to the funeral without your husband you could be sending the wrong signal. Check your motivation and if it is not driven by the need to improve yourself then by all means go. The bf needs your support.
2007-02-17 02:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several factors that should affect your decision here.
Were you particularly close to his family?
Do you still have regular contact with him or any other members of his family in a friendly, social type contact?
How does your husband feel about the idea of your going?
These are all things you should consider carefully before deciding what to do. If you're not close to his family, don't have contact with them anymore, or your husband is uncomfortable or against your going, I would say just send flowers.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-17 01:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know your ex's father really well? Who would you need to support? What would your husband think about you going? Do you have any other motives besides wanting to pay your 'respects'? Those are just a few questions I would have to ask myself. My instinct would be to not go. Don't sacrifice what you have now.
2007-02-17 02:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by UNBAKED.PEGGA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends if you were close to his father ,if you are then why not. is not like your intension is to see your ex-boyfriend. your just going to show your respect to his father. i think you should go. and if your married now , then just try to stay away from your ex as much as possible at the funeral. and give the man the respect he desserves.
2007-02-17 02:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by angelina n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you should go for support, the fact that you were once together is a good reason to go, i feel that in this life anyone who has touched your heart ,or is a dear friend or family member ,in this time off need ,could use all the support they can get.pay your respects you will feel better for doing so
2007-02-17 02:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Peter J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd see how your spouse feels about it first, then if he is alright and you had a close relationship with the rest of the family or at least immediate family and have had contact in the last few years then it would be appropriate.
2007-02-17 01:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the very fact that ur asking this question shows that u do care even if only the littlest bit. i would suggest u go. it would mean a lot for ur ex that u showed up even if it means nothing to you. after all...its a funeral
2007-02-17 01:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by prateekf1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you really shouldn't go to the funeral. I'm not going to go into a big, long explanation why. You just Should NOT!
Cheers
2007-02-17 01:54:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋