This is for people who grew up with alot of siblings. Do u beleive that u received the same amount of love from your parents as someone who is an only child? When I got married, I had a son. It was just me & him for 2 years, so he got alot of 1 on 1 time.Since I got married, I haver taken in my hubby's 7 yr old and his 4 yr old, plus we had 2 kids together, a 2 yr old & a 1 yr old. Sometimes I feel I can't be there for all of them emotionally like I was for my first son, & I feel guilty about it at times. I do the best I can, but theres only so much I can do with five little personalities running around, and also take time for myself, and spend time with my husband. I fear sometimes that the only memory they will have of me is mom running around all day. I try to play with them each alone on occasions, and then I also play with them all together. I was just wandering, from someone who grew up in a household like this, how are u today? do u beleive ur relationship with ur mom was good?
2007-02-17 01:50:23 · 6 answers · asked by Lindsey H 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not sure I can really help, but here's my thoughts. I grew up in a large "blended" family. My Mom didn't do a very good job. All but one of my siblings has hard feelings. Mostly due to her "favorite" playing.
I have 3 children myself, and I've worked really hard to never play favorites. Can you treat them all the same? No way! But spending separate time with each one and being as fair as possible is what I've tried for. Only my children as adults will be able to answer whether I've been a "good" Mom. I've really tried. My Mom never really tried, she always said, "I don't owe you anything".
You are trying and caring so I believe in the end when your children are adults they will have good memories of you.
God bless you! Being a Mom is the best most important job of all.
2007-02-17 02:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by mkb80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can honestly say I am fine today and I loved my mom very much for the time she was able to give me. I grew up in a family of 6 children ,3 girls and 3 boys. I was the oldest and we were all born close together so that meant a small baby in the house for a few years anyhow. MY point is it sounds to me like you are doing a great job and trying to spend quality time with your children. Do not feel guilty because you can not spend the amount of time you did with your first son. As more children come into the family the more you need to divide your time and if one gets less than the other well then you do the best you can and try to make up for it in other ways. As I grew up my Mother depended on me to help alot around the house and help take care of my brothers and sisters because at times she would be bed ridden because of pregnancy's, As I remember I most likely was resent full at times but now as an adult I would not have wanted any other way as it made me who I am today, And I thank my Mom and Dad for that.
2007-02-17 03:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents only had my sister and I, but my mom is one of 9 kids. She is one of 5 kids from the marriage between my grandpa and grandma. From the stories I have heard from my aunts and uncles, my grandparents tried the best they could to give each kid special attention, just as you are doing with yours. I think that when you have five kids running around you are always going to feel that you should be doing more with each one, but remember you are only one person and only capable of doing so much. I'm sure your children understand and they probably admire the way you try to give them equal amount of attention. You just have to take one day at a time, one child at a time. I don't think you should worry that they will only remember that you were always running around, I do, however, think that they will remember the special moments, like the time you spend with each of them. In fact, those will probably be the moments they treasure for the rest of their lives.
I hope you also try to take some time all to your self once in a while.
2007-02-17 02:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 Brothers and 3 sisters ranging in age 24 to 4. Each of us got the same amount of attention. You can be there emotionally for them. Make time to play and talk to all of them. Try taking them all to the park, or just play with them outside. It's normal to feel how you are feeling because it does tire you out from playing with all of them. Whatever you do, do not pick a favorite. You won't be able to spend everyday with just one it's impossible. Have the older kids play and help you out with the younger ones. I wouldn't trade my family for the world. I'm 22 years old. I will go to my dad's house and play with my two younger sisters. I'll then make time to sit and talk to my 16 year old sister and 13 year old brother. After all that, I make time to spend with my dad and step-mom. I have a pretty good relationship with my step-mom, not so much my real mom. She did things to me when I was younger that is hard to forget. I hope that this all helps.
2007-02-17 02:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am probably one of the unique cases. I had 6 sisters and was the only boy and we had only one bathroom. However. Mother liked the girls best and I seemed to always be in trouble for perhaps more things than my actual shenanigans warranted. However, My children got treated much better. I made sure I was fair to them and not be so fullish to have a small army of kids.
2007-02-17 02:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have three siblings and im fine, but my mom isnt my favorite person but thats a whole different story
2007-02-17 01:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by shannon d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋