My fiance bought a really nice used truck, before he went to back to Iraq. I drive it once in a while to keep it running. So I took the truck to get it an oil change. While at the the station, the man informed me the injectors needed cleaning, the filter needed replaced and showed me the radiator was on the level of water and needed to be flushed. I text messaged him and he called back. I asked him if he wanted that stuff done and he said Yes. I am a single Mom. He never sends me any money, he makes over $100,000 a year. He is with a contractor over there. After I dished out $201 on his truck, he thanked me for being a good Samaritan. He also orders stuff for himself, sent to my home and I dish out approximately $25-$30 in postage to resend it to him. He never pays me. He agreed to go in half on the living room set and that was 4 months ago and I hinted about it and nothing. Should I chalk this up to a lesson learned or what?
2007-02-17 01:48:32 · 13 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's both cheap and rude. Not only does he expect you to pay any bills for him, yet without returning the favour, he outright lies to you. I wouldn't let there be a next time, but if there is, next time he orders something and has it delivered to your house, you should tell him you'll look after it until he's around to pick it up as you're not willing to pay to have it sent out. And if you're expecting to split costs with him, make sure he pays you his share BEFORE you fork out the total cost.
2007-02-17 01:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kitty, dump this cheap skate of a selfish guy as fast as you can.
Since I don't understand the comment about the man showing you the radiator was on the level of water(?) and needed to be flushed it sounds like you may not have needed the work he suggested. This practice is very common. But that's not the point.
The point is your cheap fiance. Tell him you need the money upfront before you do anything for him. Have him send you some money for you to use in the future when something comes up like truck repairs or postage. If he refuses, well, like I said, say goodbye to him.
2007-02-17 01:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In matters of money it is best to come straight to the point. Tell him you're happy to do things for him but can't afford the financial strain.
Tell him you'll take your time and get his truck fixed, stand in line at the post office, but you need to be paid back right away. Surely a guy making 6 figures should be able to see the lopsidedness of this situation.
If he balks, you walk. That is not fair. He's either dense or cunning and you can forgive dense. Don't beat around the bush anymore with him, tell him you need the $$.
Good luck!
2007-02-17 01:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lori 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for the truck, I see it as the buyer and a seller: the buyer is
usually convinced that the price is too high, and the seller - that
it's too low.
I think he thought that as you are using it, you should pay for the
maintenance.
As for the postage and other things, only you to blame. Men (and people in general) like it when a woman asks for nothing, and does a lot; and I think you played it up to make him like you. You decided that after he likes you, you'll be able to assert your rights.
It does not happen this way in life. When you ask for nothing, people take it for granted, and if you start asking afterwards, they will say that you became a bad person, or, a man would say that relationship deteriorated (since you asked for nothing at first, and then started doing it).
You can, to escape "she became a bad person" thing, tell him that your income dropped and you can't do things for him anymore (postage and other). Say you are sorry, but this is finished.
And either stop using his truck, or go on paying for everything, there is no other option here.
2007-02-17 01:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He so doesn't like you and he makes enough money to buy that stuff himself then charge it on you! You should chalk it as lesson learned and move and never keep in contact with him also you can't let him do this and say nothing about it when he owes you a lot of money. Be careful to not make that mistake again.
2007-02-17 01:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he should pay for major repairs to his truck, that is not your fault. You should pay for oil changes and regular maintance since you are using it. As for the packages, I say until he pays for the other postage, don't sent them anymore. Put them in a nice safe place and send them when he send money for the postage. You and your child should not do without because he is not paying.
2007-02-17 01:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by foxygoldcleo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married..heck I'm only 14. But there is a few things I have to say. You need to sit down and talk to him. There are some people that dont even realize that what they do is sometimes unfair to other people. It's nice that you pay for all his stuff but you need to stop because if he makes the money then he should pay. You should pay sometimes but not for repair of his car!!
2007-02-17 01:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It became into no longer rude so which you would be able to invite that of him. regardless of the undeniable fact that it became into rude for him to act the way he did. i'd propose you circumvent this guy till he ask you out. feels like he's not too appreciative with reference to the date considering the fact that he's apprehensive approximately his laptop. You get what you ask for nevertheless. He became into no longer drawn to going out. advantageous adult men are shy, yet while they prefer a woman to a undeniable volume they locate the thank you to get by it to invite her out. you like him, attempt to no longer excuse his habit because of the fact of that. for my section, if i bypass out on a date with a guy. He needs to pay, open doorways and so on., in any different case a 2d date will no longer ensue. An attempt ought to be shown. First impressions are each little thing. If the guy does not admire me adequate to teach me he cares then how will something of the relationship bypass? advantageous some adult men roll out the purple carpet in the past each little thing then it may bypass downhill yet that's a very small proportion.
2016-11-23 14:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheap and using you. Nothing in your story sounds right. If you are engaged, why wouldn't he help out, or at least pay for his own things. Get out now. If he is this bad now, think about how bad he can be when you get married. If you do break up with him, he will try to talk you out of it. DO NOT LISTEN, he has a great thing going for him.
2007-02-17 02:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Rob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the truck thing i can relate on. A garage uses girls as a money giver. So they will tell you anything is wrong when it really isn't. So basically you probably wasted your money. But he needs to start paying and who cares what he says you need to be straightfoward with him
good luck!
2007-02-17 01:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋