We've been together 6 months and love and trust each other so why do I still feel paranoid when she goes out with her male friends? Please Advise.
2007-02-17 01:42:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you are insecure of yourself.
I know it doesn't sound very logical now, but getting a life works great. It's very healthy to have more things to do and around you than just your girlfriend. Meet your friends, plan activities together with her and without her. You'll find it easier to trust her and you'll be happier.
2007-02-17 01:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by urbanbard7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. What you can do, and certainly should, is fake it - you're going to get all sorts of responses about how your girlfriend is with you, not them - and while this is true, you know that already. Unless you want to back her into a corner, alienate her and ultimately push her away, you need to get good at faking a nice cheery "have a great time" when she goes out. She will appreciate you all the more for it, and is more than likely telling her male friends how fantastic you are for not being at all jealous and understanding that you have no insecurities about being the one she loves. You KNOW you can trust her.
2007-02-17 09:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question. I have thoughts like this too when I hear about a girl going out with guy friends
But if you have trust and love then you should take comfort in knowing that she will not betray your trust. You are the only one here that knows her and how much she loves you and trust you. If you know this, then you should be ok that she will not do something to jepordize it.
2007-02-17 09:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by fguz77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're insecure and have low self worth.
If she's going to go off then she will - just enjoy what you've got while you have it!! Otherwise your paranoia will end up turning into a resentment and this will ruin your relationship......
Look in the yellow pages and find a builders suppliers, get a load of bricks, build a bridge......and yes - get over it....
2007-02-17 09:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by keriandjelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the friends know that you are her bf? Do you get to hang with them too? Are you on the out side looking in? Does she drop you to be with them? Has she had any relations with these other guys? Hope I have made you feel more paranoid, but do you feel invisable?
2007-02-17 09:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends is a very attractive girl. In fact, all of this girl's friends are male. Her boyfriend is amazingly cool with her hanging out with all of us guys on a very regular basis. Here's why.
Have you met her male friends? Once you meet them and see that they're not threatening, you'll probably be a little more comfortable. I asked him this very question a week or two ago and he said meeting her male friends and getting to know them left his mind at ease when she was hanging out with them.
2007-02-17 09:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by G-Lanz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has jealously. No matter hwo much trust you have in her, you don't trust the gyus tonot try something on her. It's perfectly normal. You'll get used to it, and she should tell you if one of her male friends did try to pull something on her. She has all of your trust, if she loses it, it's not your fault then you move on. Really hun, do not worry it will all be okay, it's normal.
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2007-02-17 09:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think the bast way to think is.. how do you think she feels when you have female friends and at work in the office.. its all in your head and programmed into your mind... you just have to carry on thinking the opposite way. Its also a part of jealousy and thats normal, its healthy to a certain extent but it all lies back on how you control your mind.. think osotive and think how you cant wait to kiss her when you see her and your the only one that will.
2007-02-17 09:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
admitting it is a good start..now every time the paranoia gets u, just remember: keeping it cool is always the best way. breath and think logically.if she wants to cheat on u she will, whether u try to stop it or not. so stop sweating.
2007-02-17 09:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a grownup relationship, then you need to act like a grownup. if you had a friend who was a girl and you wanted to hang out with her, would you be upset if she flipped about it?
as long as shes being honest with you about hanging with them, then you have nothing to worry about. if she starts lying about it, then you know theres something wrong.
you cant have love if you dont have trust.
2007-02-17 09:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Erin P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋