I am dating a girl that is 12 years younger then me, there is a big gap in maturity and it bothers me. She gets mad when I dont go for the mind games and all that childish crap. Other then that we get along great most of the time, we have many things in common and enjoy spending time together.
2007-02-17 01:41:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Love Knows No Age"--Anonymous, this is an anonymous quote i hear many moons ago
2007-02-17 01:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by shiznizzal24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old she is. If she is younger than 25-28, I would say there is potential for a problem. The majority of people are still finding themselves and maturing in their 20s.
I am 15 years older than my fiance; however, he is 30 and mature for his age. We are very happy and the age difference is not a problem. We have communicated on many levels about many things in regards to our needs, desires, and expectations with marriage, children, and lifestyle.
You used some words that got my attention. You said "there is a big gap in maturity and it bothers me" You answered your own question. The age gap between you and this person bothers you. You may find someone else who is the same age as her and not have a problem. I think it all depends on the people.
2007-02-17 07:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by crzynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Not having many shared experiences in common, even the kind that were common to people in your age group, like enjoying the same bands, or having seen the same movies, really makes the age difference hard to tolerate. [One younger cousin(about 10 yrs younger) of my dh asked who Mick Jagger was one time, and had never heard of the Rolling Stones.] Plus, when you are past the drama and the figuring out what you want, it is down right painful to deal with someone else's journey through that particular minefield.
2007-02-17 01:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by DisIllusioned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are at least 30 years old, right? If not this is illegal! Furthermore... you should listen to your own best judgement! If you see a maturity gap characterized by games and childish behavior your relationship is likely built on sex. It won't work.
This scares me a bit... Move on and take a look at why you are attracted to someone who is so wrong for you.
2007-02-17 01:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by troyaj1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez c'mon people. A 12 year gap isn't that much. A 39 year old and a 27 year old? A 64 year old and a 52 year old? That's no big deal. My father is 11 years older than my mother and nobody thinks anything of it.
2007-02-17 02:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age ain't nothin but a number,
if you feel the person is right for you, then stay with them, dont worry about all that molesting or age difference because what really matters is the person
if u go looking for someone around ur age you could be single for the rest of your life maybe.
2007-02-17 01:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by apple|addikt. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not matter now, but just think about when you get older. She will be 60, but you will be 72. She is giong to spend her life taking care of you because most likely she will be 12 years healtier. I have a friend in that situation. The husband is 10 years older. He is sickly, and she still has lots of life in her. She feels like she is getting robbed of her golden years taking care of him, waiting to get on with her life. I on the other hand would be grateful to both take care of my husband, and be able to, and to have someone to take care of me if I were the older one. Just a perspective to look at.
2007-02-17 01:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by nurselaura2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think age matters if you are both on the same maturity level.But you said she plays games with you,so why would you stay with someone like that.But if you like younger women then at least get one that does act like a child.Good Luck
2007-02-17 01:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by chewymocah21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is actually 12 years younger than my dad. they were together for 19 years, then got divorced.
i think it doesnt matter, its the attraction that matters. if she bothers you to the point where its intolerable, then id say end it. if the good outweighs the bad, then accept it, and enjoy the good times.
all couples fight, its just a matter of what they fight about. you have to decide if the good is worth the bad.
2007-02-17 01:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Erin P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter *hopefully she is legal*lol
but if the maturity level is different it could lead to a bad ending and no one wants that. Talk out your differences and try to change them for the better!
good luck!
2007-02-17 01:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age thing could get to be a problem if shes really childish, but if you really like her why not. but if thinking about when you first started dating people she was still in nappies bothers you then maybe your too insucure about it, but maybe not
2007-02-17 01:47:29 · answer #11 · answered by Lolcy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋