how 2carry on when your extended family is all dying away?

Question

I have so much pain in my heart from family deaths. My sister passed away from what we think was Prozac side effects.

I had a very close net family that included my dad's sisters and brothers. Now my family is desintegrating, dad dead, uncles too, the matriarch of the family died adn Im devastated. . I feel numb from so much loss. Not numb for I do feel terrible sadness and as if my entire life was taken away.
How can one get over grief like these? Its an entire family history gone.

A history unlike many. I had a great family. It came with many great surprises and neat gatherings. All that is gone now.

I keep getting one death after the other one.
I feel happy for them but not for me any suggestions how to not loose one's foundation when all are dying around you?

Answer 1

you take one day ,one hour , or one minute at a time
you put one foot in front of the other even though you dont want to
you can choose giving up and life being ruined or you can choose to go on
you will never be the same after the death of your siblings or parents
but you can adapt to it


HUGS

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your losses. It can be very hard to let loved ones go.
Do you have family members left? Try to concentrate on them. Love and appreciate them. You must also have friends, and these are often as close as family and you should also treasure them.
We all will pass when it is time for us to go on to the next phase. It is normal and the only thing in life that is an absolute. If you can accept this fact, it is easier to go forward.
Many find counseling and religion helpful in dealing with grief. Personally, I have found that keeping busy with almost anything until I am able to process and accept the absence of my loved ones helps most of all.
My heart is with you. Grief is not bad. It is just painful. But you will be able to feel joy again if you just keep living and get through it.

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your losses. It truly helps to talk about your feelings of loss. You can call a hospice in your area and they can help you find a bereavement group, even if you have not had any connection with that hospice in the past. Or find a support group in your community that deals with those challenges in life. A social services department in your community or hospital can help you find those resources.

One thing you should try to keep in mind is that those you loved and lost wanted only the best for you. They may have sacrificed or worked hard to help make life good for you. It would honor them to continue on with your life as happily as possible. Yes you need to mourn them...there are stages of grief that healthy people must work through. But we also need to live life while we're here, do it for those who are no longer here, and for yourself.

You may need to search out other people to have gatherings with, not to replace those you've lost, but to help you experience the joy and surprises that are still in store for you. Death is inevitable, and while we can't live our lives fearing the loss of those around us, we need to be prepared for life changes and develop methods of dealing with them. Whether we write about our feelings in a journal, make a scrapbook of photos and memories, continue to carry on the work or projects of that person, find someone else in this world who needs our help (my neice lost her mom at age 16 two years ago, so I send her a note and/or little package every single month, as I promised her mom I would do), is an individual choice.

Put your feelings of grief into some sort of action. Share your feelings with others until you're ready to tuck them into a special place in your heart, to be remembered with a peaceful, grateful spirit. The day will come when you'll be able to do that. Be patient with yourself.

Answer 4

Many people go to grief or bereavement counseling because therapists/counselors are there to help with overwhelming situations arise. Sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 5

You need to go to grief counselling and move on,
find an interest and maybe a relationship as well....

We all accept loss in a different way, how we move
on and keep going is the most important thing.........

Answer 6

sorry for the lost of your loved ones,if you love them,it is important to be strong,they would be sad to know that you are sad,a good death will lead to a good rebirth,my father died peacefully on the third day of the lunar new year two years ago and i had not forgot him,on the third day of the lunar new year,my brothers and sisters will gather to recite Amituofo sutra for him,they need us to accumulate merits for them,before i go to work every day,I'll still pay my respect to him,bow to him and when i reach home,i will bow to him and tell him that i am back,i respect him when he is alive and respect him when he has left because our loved one would not want to see us suffer.May you be strong.

Answer 7

You should get a wife have some kids and then you can start your on family.So you can have your on gatherings.If that does not work for you go to chruch.