You find love. Then your heart is broken. Then find love again etc.
Repeat this cyle long enough and I think it would drive me crazy.
Is this why people get married to end this type of life?
2007-02-17 00:21:30 · 4 answers · asked by Joe B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm... I missed the part where you learn something along the way about the kind of person you want to be or the kind of person you allow yourself to bond that closely with.
Yeah, it's going to be a viscous cycle if you don't learn something. You're going to go into a relationship blindly based solely on attraction, ignore a bunch of red-flags in your partner, and then you are going to go into react mode where your emotional reactions to what is probably an unhealthy partner (which means you either are unhealthy or living in LaLa Land), lose your integrity along the way, drive her interest in you into the dirt, get dumped, and then wind up nursing a broken heart.
Why do people get married? If they are smart and healthy people, it's because they have learned from this process you seem to still think is fated, worked on improving themselves and have begun to understand what kind of partner they can work with in a partnership, and if they find that person, they don't want them to get away.
BTW, it can take a couple years to figure out if you are with the right one even if you are the most sober, well grounded person on the planet.
2007-02-17 00:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This cycle is common in people who are so desperate for love that they'll take whatever they can get. They break the cycle for settling for less than they deserve. There's nothing wrong with breaking the cycle, but it's far easier and more rewarding to do so by swearing never to fall in love again.
2007-02-17 01:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl get married for some of the stupidest reasons
i for one did it when i was young and stayed for almost 15 yrs then i was alone not looking for a bf/love anything (8yrs)
i did find my true love it just happened but we are not married and never will be you dont need a paper to tell someone you want to be with them forever
and think about it even when ppl are married they still cheat,look for someone else, so does it really matter
we all have to wait at some point for true love
2007-02-17 00:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully and then you have to be in love to with someone who loves you back. After awhile you just go with the flow.
2007-02-17 00:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋