2007-02-17 00:11:44 · 5 answers · asked by azra s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The first thing to remember is that children learn respect by feeling it. Respect them, their feelings and their opinions and work from there. If they are refusing to go along with the group, make them the leader, make them responsible for the group' foward movement toward the goal. If they just plain don't want to talk to anyone, don't make them. Help them find ways to express themselves without having to talk or be in front of everybody. The praise and comments of their brethren will usually help them come around. Don't fight battles that you don't need to and win every battle you pick. Finding a compromise shows the child that you respect them and that there are ways everyone can win. If you must stand, don't lose, ever. One of the ways that you can get that age group to let you know what they are thinking is by making feeling/though cards. A picture or the word for different thoughts and feelings. Then he kids can hand you a card with their thought or feeling so they don't have to admit to it. Make a "ways to cope" book with different ways they can deal with each feeing. Send them to the book when they have trouble, that way, they learn not only to work it out themselves but how to do research (at least how to "look it up"). And don't forget humor, you can get kids to do almost anything in the few minutes after you pretend to run headlong into a wall (Caution, only works once).
2007-02-17 02:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the ankles! Just kidding. Be just as stubborn as they are. No force or spanking is needed. Do things with them they like to do and then slowly incorporate what you desire into the flow. Do it right and they won't even realize you are teaching them something. It takes time, use that to your advantage.
2007-02-17 02:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by proud american 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground now or you will regret it later when they are teens! Maybe get a star chart for the fridge. When they listen or do what they are told, they get a star. And reward them for so many strars or something. Like they get to go out to McDonalds or something they like. Maybe a cheap toy. You can make up all the rules to this. You know them better than any of us.
2007-02-17 00:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by Shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ground them from the stuff they love until they behave !!!! example my 4 yr old loves gymnatics she was very bad 1 week so she didnt get to go ( although there is a make up class) just take something they like alot and they will behave to get it back
2007-02-17 00:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, it just wastes your time to continue to argue and fight battles with them. Get on their level and sit down and calmly have discusions on their behavior or what you want them to do. They love getting that one on one attention and want that discipline. My husband does this with our kids, and it works WONDERS. I dont have the patience like he does, but I am working on it.
2007-02-17 00:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋