She keeps tellingme that she loves me But i just keep ignoring her, hoping that she will eventuallly figure out that i don't like her. Am i doing the right thing? I NEED HELP IT'S DIVING ME INSANE!!!!!!
2007-02-17 00:06:03 · 15 answers · asked by tabproduction 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SHe is on the same bus as me and when ever she gets the chance, she sits as close to my row as possible. i don't like her because earlier in the schol year she dropped her books, blamed it on me. then she kept telling me she Hated me HATED ME!!!! but now she says shhe loves me and keeps bothering me. WHY CAN'T SHE REALIZE I DON'T LIKE HER!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-17 00:30:33 · update #1
Oh Yeah She is also a grade higher than me so i won't have to worry NEXT year. and every few days a ball of paper hits me on the bus. it's always blank, so this could be unrelated and jus Coincedence. but i dont think so. i think it kis her.
2007-02-17 00:33:48 · update #2
Try to avoid her as much as possible. You know, some girls are persuaded that time will do the trick and refuse to face the truth.
So avoid running into her as much as possible.
2007-02-17 00:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good youre ignoring her and not leading her on. The fastest advice would be to make her jealous with another girl, but that would involve another girl, it might be a bit too harsh, and it might make things worse. Basically you need to explain to her that you have no feelings for her. Tell her she's crazy, but in the nicest way possible. If you havent talked to her already, then this could help. If you have already talked to her already, then basically stay away from her, block her phone number, delete her myspace account, what have you. Extreme measures must be taken with crazy girls like this. Good luck! Go out find a not crazy girl.
2007-02-17 00:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her in a nice way that you don't feel the same thing towards her. It's better off if you just ignore her until she realized that you're really not interested. She must be thinking that you're a challenge & playing hard to get. Godd luck! (- -,)
2007-02-17 00:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not directly deal with her? Why think that she will '" eventually figure it out " ? I don't understand why so many have a problem with clear, respectfully expressed COMMUNICATION.
By not saying anything to her you are not valuing your own self of how you care to be treated. Don't want to hurt her feelings or make her uncomfortable...Yet, you don't mind having your own self be uncomfortable ?
Advice . . . stop ignoring her and address her directly. Say something like :
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I understand your feelings...but I don't feel the same.
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You are nice . . . I am nice . . . but our styles don't blend (mesh) and I'm asking you to respect my feelings and stop expressing that you love me.
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You need to find someone who likes you the same way in return...That person is not me...I'm flattered, yet you really need to focus your feelings on someone else.
If she keeps expressing affection to you then she is not respecting your personal space and you will need to be more clear and asssertive saying something as :
I have clearly asked you not to pursue me (put this in your own words). . . and I'm telling you...you're now being annoying...you need to stop. You truly don't know what true love is because a person who cares for another in love or friendship respects others...you are not respecting what I'm telling you. Go find someone else. (Tell her this with a respectful yet firm, clear look to your eyes and face).
A woman would not put up with that from a man...why should you put up with that from a woman ?
Stop ignoring her and clearly address the problem she is forcing on your path.
I wish you strength and peace with her.
2007-02-17 00:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't like her not even as a friend? Why can't she be your friend are you that picky about your friends? Is she a very unpopular girl? Is she ugly? Do you not want to be friends with an ugly and unpopular girl?
Don't ignore her, she is not getting it. You need to tell her you don't feel the same way she does and to let it go.
2007-02-17 00:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. you sound like two of my friends. if you really honestly tried to get to know her and you dont like her, then tell her that. dont ignore her. she might think you're playing hard to get. and dont be a jerk to her either. be nice, but explain to her that you just aren't interested. maybe tell her that you're currently crushing on someone else. but be nice to her. you might think that that will make her want you more, but it will make things less bitter between you two. you might not be her friend now, or need her now, but one day you might need her help, and she'll remember how nice you were and how you explained everything to her. if that doesnt work, she's probably a pyscho stalker- good luck!
2007-02-17 00:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is stalking you ...a not very pretty picture..just report her to the police and let them do their jobs or she could be a real pain after you end up marrying her as you will probably have relations and then the kid or kids come and then you would have to go to court and get all your dough taken for eight teen years or more.u yuck on that
2007-02-17 00:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing right, actually, you might hurt her feelings if you ignore her. You can talk to her and say that you are not right and not suitable for him. Tell her that there are many men out there waiting for her. Just be calm ok?
2007-02-17 00:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by keana_gallardo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u dun have the guts to tell her, maybe u can tell her friend abt ur feeling towards her. or u can just ignore her and let her figure that out later. or just tell her, strraight to her face. good luck .
2007-02-17 00:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by steen_012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep ignoring her....or just tell her "look, I don't feel the same way"
Or sleep with her then break up the next day.
2007-02-17 00:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋