My brother & his fiance only live 1/4 mile from me. I'm divorced and live alone. The only time I ever see them is if I initiate contact, or on holidays. I've said something before, and then they came to my house 1 time. They acted like it was a chore. This has bothered me since I've lived at my house (4 years). How can I look at this with a new perspective so it doesn't matter to me anymore?
2007-02-16 23:34:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
find nice friends to visit you can choose your friends not your family, miserable lot they sound quite selfish better off ignoring them only visiting sometimes
2007-02-16 23:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by denny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect yourself enough to not take it personally. This is just how your brother is. Acknowledge that you can't change him. Accept him and love him for who he is. Understand that you don't have to understand why he's the way he is and you're only hurting yourself by focusing on trivial differences between you in a negative way. Call him or see him when you want to, don't complain about it, ever, just enjoy your visit together and allow him the same pleasure. Once in a while, invite them over for dinner. Always try to focus on having peace inside, for yourself. Sometimes things aren't how we wish they were, but if we look from another perspective, things aren't so bad anyway. It could be worse. I hope this helps. I wish you the best!
2007-02-17 07:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking them, stop visiting them.
People who show repeatedly that they don't care, either don't care or have forgotten you have feelings too.
If after a few holidays go by with no contact from you, they might stop taking you for granted and seek you out. If they don't, it's their loss, not yours.
Go to your friends for the holidays and live a full life without your family, they are not necessary. The sooner you realize that, the sooner their insensitivity will stop bothering you and start bothering them.
2007-02-17 07:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they don't feel like it would be good to just drop by without calling or being asked. i know i would not appreciate it if someone just dropped by my house without giving me at least a phone call so i could clean up a bit.
2007-02-17 09:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want them around for? They're not doing anything for you.
2007-02-17 07:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are like that.
2007-02-17 07:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋