my ex started a new job, got to know one of his coworkers and then started getting text mgs from her.his phone rang with the msg and i looked at it read it and found out that way, his reaction was what was i doing getting into his business and he doesn't do that to me. then when i left he told everyone that it was my fault.then had the nerve to lie to me saying he wasn't. i left. if it weren't true he would have came and tried to explain. but never did. I was with him for 24 years and I am done. I just can't figure out why they think that they can get away with it. I caught him with my sister and with one of my cousins. I didn't give him the satisfaction of me leaving right away, I stayed and made him go thru pure hell before i left. that gave me the satisfaction of getting revenge. once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-02-16 23:18:20 · 24 answers · asked by leapinlezard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that men think it's your fault. That is just a defense mechanism, he is just trying to use reverse pyschology. A man will try to get away with anything if you let them don't lower your standards. If he's cheating and he's not apologetic about it leave.
2007-02-16 23:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by ladyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the "have your cake and consume it too" syndrome. women persons sense somewhat neglected around the domicile through fact the boyfriend isn't doing plenty for the relationship so she unearths the attention someplace else. She does not decide to bypass away the protection of the already general relationship so while caught she hopes that via blaming the guy she gets what she needs. i've got been there, i've got seen it and and am appauled via it. do no longer settle for this excuse except you have infact cheated besides, perchance it relatively is the reason she feels neglected interior the 1st place. See what an much less confusing international we'd all stay in if human beings communicated and did no longer cheat.
2016-10-15 12:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Leapinlez, I'm sorry that your husband was such a dick, but believe me when I say not all men are that way. Some men are immature and look for "love" outside of marriage instead of putting there effort into making their marriage and love life more fulfilling for both them and their spouce. Sometimes it would help though if the women also tried harder to put a little spice into their sex life. I am a very lucky man, who has found and married a wonderful woman, who is always coming up with new and exciting things to do in the bedroom, from toys to role-playing to whips/chain, all exciting and wonderous when between consenting adults. I hope the next time you get into a relationship your partner earns and keeps your trust by not venturing outside of the relationship. Once again sorry for the way he treated you, as nobody deserves that and Good Luck with your next partner.
2007-02-16 23:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by markobhave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know you may not agree with me, but if a guy is cheating there IS a reason he is cheating. It can be a thing like he has someone who is like flirting with him and this can lead to other things. OR it can be that there is / are problems in the existing relationship that have not been addressed, which indirectly pushes him in that direction. BUT let me say this, IF I MYSELF were to cheat on my old lady then there would be NO excuse, NO justification what-so-ever. I have a good woman and she loves me to death. So if I myself were to cheat it would be totally my fault. Sorry to hear about your situation. OH BY THE way, you have slapped your sister and your cousin right? Family shouldn't do you that way.
2007-02-16 23:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men that like to play with people are not real men at all. They are insecure little dick weeds. When the red flags start going up in a relationship with a man, its time to move on. Oh, and men that play with people are actually very insecure within themselves. And, who wants somebody like that? You are much better off without somebody like this. I have a rule that I live by. One lie, let it slide; two lies, the warning flag goes up, three lies and you are dealing with someone pathological. After the third, move on.
2007-02-16 23:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women do this to each other all the time. this guy was a waste of your time. Okay so it still bothers you after all of this time and treachery. If you are still so consumed by this with anger perhaps you should consider counseling for a short time. Find a hobby, go back to school and go make the life you deserve for yourself.
Good luck,
2007-02-24 22:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me listen good its not just your ex trust me my man too when we were friends its a mans ego a man feels he can do anything and get away without the girl finding out trust me ive been my man when we were friends only doing so many things thinking i had no clue only for me to see how far he would fool me but good for him he always told me the truth whatever it was even him and my cousin flirting with each other while we were friends while she lied being married.So its just a mans ego which makes him think that way then when you catch them they lay the guilt trip blame it on us.a mans ego !
2007-02-16 23:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by bitezoflove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are invading is privacy but what he did 2 u is so wrong that pisses me off when guys cheat on there lady and then the girl ends up not trustin to many guys and the whole once they cheat they always cheat is not true I cheated on a couple gf's in highschool but they did cheat on me but I'm done with cheating cause it's just not right oh and dramaqueen us dudes can commit but it has to be the girl
2007-02-16 23:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 years! well, I'm sorry for what you've been through with this jerk and for wasting such a huge part of your life with him.
They aren't all like that you know. There's a lot of good guys out there too, and hopefully you'll find one of them soon. :)
And well done for getting away from him, it must have been hard leaving him after all those years. even though he was a scum bag.
2007-02-16 23:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by riffyxraff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a Good little Angel. They think they can get away with it. But you don't have to let them hang around they will get what is coming to them without that.
2007-02-16 23:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋