Am I the only person that feels this way because at the moment that's how it seems!? I have 3 kiddies & I get visits from family members who insist they're visiting me but if I try to have a conversation with them I'm either ignored or whilst I'm talking they continue to make silly noises at the kids which totally puts me off talking to them!
My sister used to visit & the whole time she'd be here she'd be texting someone, her phone never left her hand & when I said something about it being rude she got a strop on & didn't visit for a while!
I don't get alot of adult conversation so when I do get visits I'm stupidly looking forward to them but even then I still don't get conversation unless it's something they want to share about themselves!
I do wonder if they'd even notice if I got up & walked out leaving them with the kids for an hour or so!
Does anyone else feel like I do?
2007-02-16 22:59:43 · 11 answers · asked by Mummy - 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Been there! I have a 9 month old and any family that come over are only over to see my baby. So what I do is I suggest that they have them for the night seeing they seem so good with my baby so that me and my husband can go out for the night and enjoy being a couple again instead of parents.
Some of my friends complain because their family don't bother with their kids so I make the most of the fact that mine do. Well my husbands family anyway.
I think all mums ARE invisible until they aren't around - then they are missed. No one realises how much you do until you don't do it anymore.
So as I said - use it to your advantage and enjoy yourself. You've got 3 kids so you are a mum 24/7. Take a break. Treat yourself. And when you go out with your husband, make him promise that the kids are not allowed to come up in the conversation.
2007-02-17 03:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by kelly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that's annoying isn't it. I think you SHOULD just get up and leave, let them babysit, and go find a nice bar to hang out at for a while! get some good conversation and go home when you feel like it! Seriously though, maybe you should ask them if they could babysit sometimes - then they get quality child time and you can get out and do something with someone else without the kids. Also maybe you should make plans sometimes to meet your friends outside the house and left the kids at home with your husband or a family member for a while? I am always so careful when I visit my friends with kids to be sure I am actually there to visit my FRIEND. I offer to babysit the kids so they can go out if I want child-time. Maybe your family can do the same!
2007-02-16 23:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYDAY!! LOL! I think it's part of being a mommy. I have 3 kids also and don't get a lot of adult conversation. Have you ever heard the expression: treat others the way you'd like to be treated? Well, I tried that with my husband (who has actually started a conversation with someone else right in the middle of me talking to him) and he got really pissed off at me. So I finally told him, now you know how I feel! Now he atleast catches himself when he's being rude and apologizes! I also just recently joined a mommy's club. We get together once a week at different places like parks or libraries, etc. It has been helping me so much! I get to talk to other adults and they are just as excited as I am to chat. You should ask around your area for a mom's club. I found out about mine through one of the mom's at my son's school.
2007-02-16 23:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL THE TIME!! My husband doesn't realize what I do. None of the family member come and visit, I feel like nobody cares. I'm under a lot of pressure all the time. I have always felt like that. Even at my own wedding I felt like I was disappearing. My own husband's family doesn't want to spend time with the children. It's sad, but when they ask to see the children, I'll just tell them we are busy because they are not worth our children's time
2007-02-17 05:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, at times. Used to ensue lots extra regularly. Freshman 12 months (extreme college) i replaced into particularly lots invisible to all human beings. i'm a junior now and lots happier. i've got made some pals and that i slot in extra desirable. I nevertheless sense invisible at times, simply by fact i could be a quiet individual, and tend to wander off in the shuffle even in our tiny college. yet I basically forget approximately approximately it now and start up conversing to a minimum of considered one of my pals whilst i've got self belief that way (for the main area).
2016-10-02 07:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh You aren't alone!
How old are your children? Are they young enough for you to go to a mather-toddler group with them?
You will find these great places for getting an adult conversation, and will be able to meet others who are in the same boat as you.
2007-02-17 00:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it, ask them if they will keep an eye on the kids for a few hrs, then get up and get to the coffee shop or a book store and strike up a conversation with somebody
2007-02-17 06:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times yea i do. I think anyone does not need to have anything to do with people that only come around when they want something and i know a few people like that.
2007-02-16 23:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone experences this from time to time. You are NOT alone.
2007-02-16 23:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not for a long time, thankfully.
2007-02-16 23:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Orion Quest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋