He has been married.Left his wife after he caught her in the bed with another man? He treats her like a queen and seems to be a good man.
2007-02-16 22:34:51 · 16 answers · asked by Elizabeth 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If he treats your daughter like a queen, what more could you ask for. After all, it is about your dauhters happiness right?
2007-02-17 06:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your daughter a born-again Christian? Is this man a born-again Christian? If neither one of them is a Christian, then the marriage will probably end in divorce. If one is a Christian but the other is not, the hte marriage will probably end in divorce. If both are Christian, then the marriage stand a good chance of success. The fact that her boyfriend left his former wife over adultery shows that he may have trouble with forgiveness. God does not allow for divorce in cases of adultery---this is a common misunderstanding. God only allows divorce in a case of fornication. fornication is sex outside of marriage, not unfaithfulness. In the case of fornication this would be where the woman would misrepresent her sex life to her betrothed before the marriage, and he would discover her deceit after the ceremony. It is then that God would allow for a divorce. Your daughter needs to grill her boyfriend on this subject and get
ALL the truth out of him. She needs to insure that he has a forgiving heart, else the marriage will not work. People will make mistakes in a marriage and forgiveness is the key to the intensity of the love that holds the marriage together. How he treats her prior to saying the "I Do's" is important, but much of that can fade away the morning after.
2007-02-16 22:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a non-Christian, but it sounds like the man has a lot of self-respect. He didn't even degrade himself to fight the other guy. If he's treating your daughter right, sounds like he has good intentions and probably just wants to resume the normality of his life with someone that can reciprocate properly.
Read Deuteronomy 24:1 "If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house." He has done everything by the book.
2007-02-16 22:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Alucard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said above, there is nothing wrong with the man. It was the wife who was in the wrong, and biblically he is supposed to divorce her. He must not just leave her, he must cut off all ties with her through divorce.
After divorce, according to the Bible, he is free to marry whosoever he wills. So, yes you daughter can marry this man if they love each other.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-16 22:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by RealArsenalFan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they both christians? did they abstain from sexual contact? Have they found a good church to attend? Do they pray together? Only until he has recovered from his last relationship and is free, then he can proceed. Cant be on the rebound. he rightly divored on the grounds of adultery, but there is always forgiveness as well. Thats a hard one. But if they have spent time getting to know each other and have not "skipped" the right steps then pray about it.
2007-02-16 22:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a Bible point of view, it is wrong.
Rom 7:2 For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. 3 So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man.
Mark 10:11 And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her;
Mark 10:12 and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery."
2007-02-16 22:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by oldguy63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His previous divorce was on the grounds of adultery.
Adultery is a Biblically accepted reason for divorce
so yes, he would marry your daughter with full blessing.
But remember if he is not a believer it will be like taking the devil for a father in law.
2007-02-16 22:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lover of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is "adultery" to lay with another's (ex)husband or (ex)wife. once that person said their vowels they promised God that they would be with that other until the end of time. and because people should take marriage more seriously. i only wish they all could see.
in my opinion though. you need to ask yourself "is this man a follower of Christ?" the man should be the one who helps strengthen the tie to God for the family. the man is the one who is to be the strong one as example. does this man have this faith? does he keep his desires of God and not of this world? is he right with God? if you dont think that he is going to help your daughter grow at all spiritually then i would say it wouldnt be a good choice to marry him. if you think about it, why are we here on this Earth for? to show our obedience to our Lord.
God bless
2007-02-17 08:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kenneth H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a Biblical point of view, he is free to remarry.
But be careful: Why did his former wife have someone else if he was so great to her as you say he is to your daughter?
Another aspect to consider: Are there children involved? How does your daughter relate to them?
2007-02-17 01:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by flandargo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he treats her like a queen and loves her...what's the problem??
it is your daughter (yes i understand that you want the best for her) that is or wants to marry this man, not you. if she is unsure of her feelings for him then i would advise her to think seriously about the doubts she has and to wait or not marry at all.
2007-02-17 01:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by polgara922 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋