how do I deal with the 'someone joins the conversation and then no one can hear me' phenonmenon?

Question

after a long series of such occurrences where a newcomer to the chat changes the subject and he and my previous interlocuter can apparently no longer hear me I have become weary of the effort of getting rid of them and ignoring them as it consumes a lot of energy-in fact, I am hesitant about forming any new relationships as it always comes to this
in the present situation both of them are car nuts and the newcomer will simply arrive without warning and change the subject to cars and both of them will leave the table to check the car without acknowledging me
whenever I discuss this with people they accuse me of wanting attention or being immature;I freely admit that I do tend to hog the centre of the conversation but I do listen.;and this is not a gay thing or even a group dynamics thing but has to be seen , I think, in the context of everyone having no manners anymore.Others have suggested that I should force myself into the conversation but they shout me down if I do.Well??????

Answer 1

I think you are overreacting... I've never heard of anyone making a big deal out of this kind of thing... Stop letting this bother you and then you'll find yourself happier...If you find this to be a big problem to deal with, a psychiatrist can help you pinpoint what the real problem is... That's how I would deal with it if I had this problem...

Answer 2

Well, I guess I'm going to repeat what other people have told you then: it's pretty obvious that they want to talk about cars, so your disappointment is caused by your expectation that they will want to listen to you (because you want attention or whatever). If you no longer want to be part of the conversation you can simply say, "See you later," and leave and go do something else. Hopefully you'll find someone else to talk to. I'm sorry you feel neglected.

Answer 3

It IS a gay thing. You are smittened and in denial.