This is for the men. How much emphasis do you put on looks?

Question

I know they are important. I have a male friend who is divorced and who has broken off an engagement to an attractive women simply because he wants the perfect woman (meaning perfect body, beautiful, etc.). Do men prefer a beautiful hot woman with no substance even if they have nothing in common?

And if looks are the most important thing to you, are you willing to be with someone you find annoying just because they are hot?

Being a woman, I have met guys who were hot but didn't have much of a personality or sense of humor and that sucks. I couldn't see having a relationship with somebody like that. I was just curious if some men are willing overlook that.

Answer 1

There isn't a one size fits all answer here. SOME guys want shallow but physically attractive women. Everyone has a different or unique aesthetic taste. This isn't any different than women. I have heard many women say, "Brad Pitt is so hot" and other women say, "Wow, I don't think he is that good looking at all" or "He is alright." If you list a name of ANY guy you think is hot, I'm sure I can find AT LEAST 20-30 women who think that guy is gross or at least medicore/uninspiring. Some women think older men are the hottest thing ever (like Sean Conery) and some women think they are totally gross. Aeshetics are matters of personal taste.When you ask, "Do men prefer X, Y, and Z" you are using the word "MEN" which describes an entire group of unique individuals. That isn't any more fair than a sexist guy asking, "So are women irrational and out of control when it comes to their emotions or what?" The fact is, some women are...some women aren't. There are good and bad apples in any group. Doesn't matter what group that is.
Judging a whole group based on what one individual does is never a smart idea. That bad logic leads people into thinking that all black people are criminals because someone they knew got robbed by a black guy (or something equally silly).

I can speak only for myself, but I think how a woman takes care of herself says a lot about her. That doesn't mean she has to have any pre-set physical "stats" or anything. Frankly, I would prefer a less attractive girl who has good fashion sense, buys great perfume, is really intelligent, and has a rockin' personality (with a great sense of humor) over some girl who is just T&A.

Obviously some guys are willing to overlook an annoying woman that is hot just to get some or to have a "trophy wife." Some women are the same way with their "kept men" so to speak or the pretty boys they keep around. Don't read too much into the actions of any individual man and try to infer anything about the overal group. You are just setting yourself up for a mischaracterization of a LOT of good people.

Answer 2

Hey, I guess its a misconception with some guys that if the girl is beautiful then rest of the things will get ok. Yet, I've had some friends realise that is not true. A hot girl with great looks isn't necessarily a great person to share a life with.

I'd say that when people are strangers, looks definitely play an inportant role in arousing a desire to get to know the girl, but once that is done, qualities like understanding, loyalty and affection certainly mean a huge lot, atleast to most of the guys who have serious intentions of a relationship and are loyal to it from their own side.

That said, I guess sometimes we come to know someone whom we were not initially attracted to by looks, yet get to like that person in a special way. There goes the bond.

Answer 3

YEP.... AND HE'S AN *** TOO. Unfortunately most guys are thinking with the wrong head. Who's to say though, maybe she was attractive but they had nothing in common either.
*He is also unrealistic. He will never find the "PERFECT" woman.
Likewise she/any woman will NEVER find the "PERFECT" man.
He is using that only as a lame excuse to let her down in a gentle way, because he doesn't want to give her the real reason for breaking it off with her. Some divorced persons still continue to have bedroom relations with their exes, maybe this is the case.
Some investigation more could shed light on alot of these possibilities.

Answer 4

Just the dumb vain ones.He might be trying to sow some old oats he didn't get to use up when he was younger. I've been married to the same women for over thirty years, and she has gone from a nice small sleek model, to well a Little plump thing, but she has stuck it out with me, and I lover her for that. A good woman is hard to find, and let me tell you, I put her through some trash. I used to drink and around around with my friends a lot, and ignored her quite a bit, but she was always there when the sh** hit the fan.

Answer 5

For me I do to an extent. I have my standards yes, but I'm not looking for Cindy Crawford you know, but then again I ain't looking for Rosie O'Donnell. So I don't put much emphasis on the looks, and I think most guys will agree with me. I mean, we want a girl who looks great but we want a girl who isn't the ultimate B, you know what I'm saying, unless if we're desperate.

Answer 6

Different people have different choices. Almost all males put extreme interest on looks when they are comparatively young. For a lot of them that importance will go later in life. Depends on maturity.

Answer 7

Well,thing is that i would prefer a woman who is good at heart and has a sharp mind.. looks do matter but its difficult to stand a stupid woman no matter however hot she is...So basicly i would prefer a woman who is decently good looking over a hot bod..

Answer 8

No, that is not the case.
Even if the woman is a fairy, I would look for other qualities in her.
Like how intelligent she is.
Like how she behaves with me.
How kind hearted she is.
Does she know how to dress.
How she solves an issue over which she and I disagree.
How she is in bed.
How much respect she has for my family.
I am sure she would also look for these qualities in me.

Answer 9

Yes, at first. Example: we are in the same store, and you are my soul mate, but we don't talk to each other because you have a lazy eye and l have a belly. but on the other side of the store my ideal "perfect" looking women is shopping for underwear, l will just go over to talk to her because she looks good to me, and she might be nice but will never be as good to me as you would be, but l will never know because we did'nt even speak to each other. If put in a situation where 2 people can get to know each other and talk (work, school etc) then you can get around it. l've dated lots of girls who are not the status quo, but l like them as people because l got to know them.

Answer 10

a hot woman is just OK for sex and arm candy.
I'd rather have a woman that has it going on in all aspects of her life : smarts, personality looks,and payed in that order