Please can someone help. I like to think of myself as a christian I read the bible and pray however I don't attend church. I live with partner of 4 years who is also christian. We are about to have our second child. We live as a married couple and as far as we are concerned in the eyes of god we are married. However my friend said unless we get legally married we are going to hell when we die! Is this true, am I living in sin? As far as we are concerned we don't need a piece of paper to prove our relationship. please help this is important to me.
2007-02-16 21:23:26 · 21 answers · asked by emma157 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Unless your "friend" is God, they shouldn't be judging you. I think people who go around telling other people they are going to hell are the people who will be going to hell.
2007-02-16 21:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by jzmama77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just have a couple thoughts for you, I'm sorry if I go on too long:
1) Reading the bible and praying does not make you a Christian - when Jesus claims you as his own, and you pledge your life to him - when you surrender to him as your Lord and you obey him in all that you do - when you accept his shed blood on the cross as payment for all your sins (including your current relationship, including not going to church, including whatever else you may have done that you shouldn't have or not done that you should have) When you give your life to Jesus, you are a Christian - and nothing you do or don't do can change the fact that you are a member of God's family.
2) why don't you go to church? are you burned out? Tired of
people judging you? Church is a place (ideally) where you can worship the Lord, learn more about God, grow closer to fellow believers, and use the gifts God has given you to benefit the body of Christ (the Church) - Christianity is not a solo religion - we do this together! We do it in community. Please join a good church - you may have to look around for a good, loving, kind, sincere, bible-believing Church - but you can find one if the Lord is leading you.
3) Why aren't the two of you getting married? You say you love each other and you have 2 children together....You may be married in the eyes of God but obviously you aren't married in the eyes of the law or in the eyes of your friend. Who cares what they think?? You should care. God's word says to live your life above reproach without even the appearance of sin. Getting a license "on paper" may not mean anything to you, but it is important to society and to your community - out of respect for people's sensibilities, live a life that is as pleasing and honorable as you can in our culture so as to be a good witness for Christ.
God bless you, sister! If you ever want to talk, feel free to email me:
morganie_xo@yahoo.com
2007-02-16 21:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe a peace of paper made by a mortal man such as a marriage certificate can have the power to send you to Heaven or to Hell. If you are living as a married couple and are faithful to each other then you are married in the eyes of God.
But It makes sense to get legally married if for no other reason then for the children's sake. Marriage law is mostly about protecting the children.
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2007-02-17 19:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those questions where everyone has an opinion but no one actually knows the answer.
We do know a few things about psychological health, however. What matters there is that you live in a way that is consistent through your life. There will always be people who tell you that you're going to hell -- and that they have the one and only key to avoiding it. It's your choice whether to believe them or not.
After my own personal experience, I firmly believe that premarital sex is important. Without it, maybe you get lucky and marry a person who is sexually compatible with you. I didn't.
2007-02-16 21:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not what you want, it is what God wants. I too have struggled with some of the same issues. It is not that you'll go to hell for sinning, it's what's in your heart. You have to take your own risks when it comes to the word of God. Living in sin is very different from committing a sin. Yes you are living in sin. You'll have to pray to God to help you make the right decision according to his word.
2007-02-16 22:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Annie Rod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's a sin.
And your friend somehow didn't quite explain the concept of marriage : it isn't just about a piece of paper. It's more about the solemnization before God (and humanity) that there is a lifelong commitment between the man and woman.
But there is still hope, since God DOES forgive sins that are genuinely repented of. If the two of you love each other and want to make that life-long commitment, what EXACTLY is preventing the marriage?
2007-02-16 21:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by flandargo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GOD loves you and if you ask for forgivness your sins will be erased. EVERYONE lives in sin, its human nature. It is not that you sin but what have you done about your sin to reconcile with God? Once you are married and ask for forgiveness it will be like you never sinned in GOd's eyes. You will be "clothed in His richeousness" My husband and I lived together before we were married and tryed our hardest not to sin. Its impossible. We never felt so far away from God. Then when we got married it was the happiest most romantic day of my life. I pray you do not forsake the covenant of marriage. My love to you and your family!
2007-02-16 21:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Crash 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are living in sin. Jesus Christ never taught that it was alright to live together if you're not married. If you do read the Bible you would already know this. And no, you're not married in the eyes of God, that statement makes no sense whatsoever.
2007-02-16 21:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol that's too funny; let me throw a few out there
1 - yes, if you have sex before marriage you will go to hell. if you just have sex, and don't get married, you're fine. (marriage is hell)
2 - you said "my friend said unless we get legally married we are going to hell when we die" - thats funny cause that's not a friend
3 - If so, I'll see you in hell.
4 - You've got to be joking?!?
5 - Just don't die during sex. And repent when you finish.
God is love
2007-02-16 21:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know... what do you think? I slept with a guy before i married him and i divorced him, and I'm in this stage that i don't think of sex as a really important thing, i really don't need it. Yeah i did the thing and now I'm over it... it's a phrase we all go through and some people get over it and some don't.
Good luck
2007-02-16 21:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋