you wait youre whole life to meet him,he,s great company wicked sense of humour ,same tastes in movies films ect .BUT....... you just dont fancy him one little bit !!ITS A NIGHTMARE...ahhhh.
2007-02-16 21:22:54 · 25 answers · asked by smiler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im NOT in a relationship with this man we are friends, and i love him to bits as a friend.he recently tried to kiss me and it freaked me out a bit.if i was attracted to him physically i would have been over the moon but im not.
2007-02-16 21:39:51 · update #1
rose merr- he is in every way but looks ,sounds shallow but i dont think i could go to bed with someone i didnt fancy .he,s not ugly by any means but just not what id think as handsome or good looking.
2007-02-16 21:46:35 · update #2
No chemistry no relationship. They do say marry a man that you can be friends with because this will last longer than the sexual attraction. Obviously you must have that attraction and chemistry at first though! You probably love this guy but you are certainly not in love with him.
2007-02-16 22:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way it couldnt work, you could manage to hold it together a while but not too long as you need to be physically attracted to someone for it to work. Personality can be invented to lure you into a false sense of security, I know im there now! When you realise the personality never really existed anyway you will see one thing that can be relied on is looks, as shallow as it sounds, at least you know for sure what you are getting! How many people are attracted to personalities anyway? I know if I was in a club I wouldnt be checking out the dork in hope he had a good sense of humour lol! Find someone you are attracted to physically and get to know them, that way it can just be a fling if the personality isnt right, but if it is then HELLO you have just found mister perfect! Good luck girl! x
2007-02-17 05:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had this happen to me - it's the worst thing!! On paper they sound great and tick all the boxes, but there just isn't that special spark, that chemistry. Although it may be hard, you have to break this relationship. You can't spend your life with a person who you just don;t have that 'wow' factor for. What would happen if you then met someone who you did fancy and did make you feel that way. There would be a lot more hurt that further down the line. Hopefully you will be able to keep his as a great friend
2007-02-17 05:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by TulaBox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - I don,t think it would work out.
Iwould keep him as a very, very good friend. BUT
you must let him know that you like him as a FRIEND.
Yeh, you could tell yourself that he is everything you are
looking for in a man. But if the sexual attraction is not there
it will not last. Because you could marry this wonderful
man then meet someone that has not got all his attributes
but is an enormous turn on. Then the extra-marital affairs
begin. So then you will find yourself coming on here and
asking 'I love my husband dearly - but there is no sex life,
how can we carry on?'. Don,t let it come to that because
for one, you would ruin a great friendship.
It would be interesting to see though, that if you saw him
all loved up to another female, how would you feel about
that? Good Luck!
2007-02-17 06:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u anit attarcted to someone then wats the point in being with a realtionship with them... its not ganna work out in the long run u should tell him that u just wanna be friends and u just seem him as a good mate.
2007-02-17 08:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at once time you thought of him as your dream lover? yeah we all have that fantasy...Cinderella complex.??
well, your the one whos gonna have to live with him and if you have these feelings now...then just use him until you are tired of him and move onto greener pastures. don't buy the cow if you can get the milk free? everyone needs a spare tire..??right..guys do this all the time in the real world..some women do to if they are honest..heck you might even learn to love him..it happesn!
2007-02-17 05:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just might be flashy and your drawn to him because of it, but there's no chemistry, then again he might grow on you. Just try being his friend for awhile, and see where things go. You can't always read a book by it cover.
2007-02-17 05:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens :o( I dont think it can work I tried, I feel there has to be some attraction there girl, you never know he might grow on you but doubt it!
2007-02-17 05:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly waht you mean. met the man of my dreams, but when he tried to kiss me, i just looked at his face and thought 'no thanks!'
yeah its weird. not shallow, spose its just soemthing inside us telling us we need to have beautiful childeren!
my situaltion did not go well. and now this amazing guy is gone...
so yeah - i dont know what you want to do, but be careful because as i found out, you may start rejecting him because of his looks ( as i did ) and this may not be too good.
im alot happier without him though!
good luck though!
2007-02-18 09:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by sweetmango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him as a best friend, once you get to know him more he may grow on you and things may work out.
2007-02-17 06:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋