I just got out of a horrible relationship, it was 3 1/2 years about, and it's been over 2 months. I have since met someone but keep getting a bad/weird feeling. Could this be because I really like him and am afraid to get hurt again, or something else? I'm kind of concerned because he loves going out and doing things and I'm more of a sit at home and relax kind of a person. I'm thinking I might be feeling uncomfortable and not necessarily "bad" about the relationship. He's really social and I'm honestly socially-inapt.
2007-02-16 21:09:59 · 7 answers · asked by Random 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say you only live once!!!Get out of the house even if you don't do it with this person.Go out have fun don't sit at home and dwell on all the what ifs. As far as dating "this" person I usually say if you have a bad feeling then go with that first instinct because most of the time that is right.But if you still feel it is the hurt of the first relationship then maybe you are not as ready for dating as you think.But you can still get out live life and hav fun!!!Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-16 21:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a horrible relationship, it was 3 1/2 years about, and it's been over 2 months. I have since met someone but keep getting a bad/weird feeling. Could this be because I really like him and am afraid to get hurt again, or something else? I'm kind of concerned because he loves going out and doing things and I'm more of a sit at home and relax kind of a person. I'm thinking I might be feeling uncomfortable and not necessarily "bad" about the relationship. He's really social and I'm honestly socially-inapt.
2007-02-17 05:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by RAVI P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two months is not very long. It's good to take some time to reflect on what you learned from the past relationship and what you want to get out of new relationships. If you don't engage in this process, you are at risk for getting into another horrible relationship. Trust your gut. If you have a bad feeling, that is bad. Either you are not ready to date or he is not the one for you. When you are around the right guy, at the right time, you will feel at ease and at peace. Not weird/bad, as you describe. Men are like buses- if you miss one, a new one will come along eventually. No harm in really taking the time to reflect on your past relationship. You are at risk for bad judgment during this vulnerable period! Think before leaping!
2007-02-20 00:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the feeling is bad then of course that's not good or weird like...is it that you get queasy when he is around...you watch his lips when he speaks just to hold onto his words...that may Be deep feeling..i know you are afraid of getting hurt but you cant let past experiences decide your future happiness only let them be a reference to keep you from the same situation...two months I'm not sure it depends on how fast you move and how well you cope...as for as the sitting at home the only way you will ever start back dating is to make yourself visible.
2007-02-17 05:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Klassy_03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try dating him a few times and find out if he's what you really want. As they say, a flash in the pan looks like gold, until you pull it out.
2007-02-17 05:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is quite a difference between the two of you, maybe that is what is making you feel uncomfortable.
Good Luck
2007-02-17 05:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say opposites attract. However, you should feel comfortable around anyone you are considering a relationship with.
2007-02-17 05:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Catman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋