so my friend is 2 months pregnant and she really wants to have this baby, but her boyfriend is saying that she shouldnt be keeping the baby because he isnt ready to be a father, he's a year younger than her, she is wondering what she should do because she loves her boyfriend but wants to have the baby and keep it????
2007-02-16 20:50:01 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
she is not one to want to give up a baby at all because it is her dream to be a mother..
2007-02-16 20:55:07 · update #1
for those of you asking she is 24
2007-02-16 20:55:42 · update #2
I'm sorry thats just ridiculus. Its funny how men say this after the girl is pregnant. If he aint man enough to accept his responsibility then he's not man enough to have sex.
Its her decision and she shouldnt abort or adopt the baby just to keep him happy. Its her baby and her body so its her decision. Never ever let a man pressure you into doing something you dont want to.
Tell her to keep her baby if thats what she wants and he can like it or lump it. If he really loved her he would be happy to. He has months to prepare himself for being a Dad and he will either become excited about it (he may just be a bit scared right now) or be a wanker and leave.
I'm sorry that attitude just pisses me off. Men are idiots. Like they forget if you have sex you get pregnant.
Just tell your friend to do what she wants to and not to be pressured or guilted into anything. Be there to love and suppourt her whatever happens. Good Luck to her.
2007-02-16 22:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the guy wasn't ready to be a father he shouldn't have unzipped his denims and pulled down his drawers now should he? If she wants to keep the baby that is her CHOICE (I love being Pro choice!). He doesn't get to have a say in the matter. Frankly she might want to rethink that loving the boyfriend bit. He's obviously no where near being an adult since he doesn't want to take responsiblity for his actions, she would be much better off without him. If she decides to keep the pregnancy she should also decide to put the father's name on the birth certificate, that will make it much easier for her to file for child support which she had better do!
2007-02-16 21:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to sit her boyfriend down and talk about it, let him know how much she wants their baby. If he doesn't change his mind, and she feels that her feelings about keeping and raising her child is stronger then her relationship with the father she should then keep her baby only if she has a loving family to support her. Who knows if she has the baby and he See's how beautiful their baby is he'll change his mind...He sounds young and freaked out which is only normal...whatever happens, happens just be there for support... i hope everything turns out fine and it will. Everything happens for a reason.
2007-02-16 21:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by tayzar1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to keep the baby then I say keep it. That "boyfriend " may not be forever but her baby is. I also think if she really wants the baby and doesnt keep it she will regret it for the rest of her life and may even resent him
2007-02-16 20:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you , i mean your Friend should do. Yeah friend thats what i mean. Tell her to tell her man to either be a real father and have the kid. Or to tell her man to sign the babies right over to your friend the mother of the child. And then she would dump her man after that..
2007-02-16 21:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby......shes 24 she can actually start having a baby without him.....i am 23 now and i have one 3 year old daughter and without a daddy n trust me, its a good feeling n its actually a blessings and why not abortion?......because you will actually lose an innocent one who doesnt know what their parents did to create them and those innocent will love her for the rest of her life unconditionally unlike his dad!
2007-02-16 21:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by lady_skiewalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have the baby, if he doesnt come to the party there will be family and friends to support her.If he doesnt want the baby then he obviously doesnt love her and respect her feelings and dreams.
2007-02-16 23:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard one if it was me i would tell my boyfriend how much it meant to me to have this baby and that him having sex with me and getting me pregnant is a consequence of that he will love the baby he just isn't ready but if he has to I'm sure he would stand up to the plate
2007-02-16 22:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by ~mumof2boys~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people would disagree with me, but I think it would be extremely selfish of her to keep the baby. I think families should be a consensual decision by both parties.
2007-02-16 20:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋