there's this guy.. my cousins' friend.. we hang out for a drink last christmas with my cousins.. my cousin told me that this guy has a crush on me.. i like him and his really nice to me.. we text and call each other, we e-mail each other and i promised him that i'll be meeting him again by april..
he was trying to admit to me that he's falling in love with me.. but he's afraid because i know that we're from different level. like i'm from an urban life and his from a semi-urban state.. i don't care if his from "whatever" level.. but all i wanted to be is his good friend because i think he's just lonely... how can i "decrease" his feelings for me???? i don't want to hurt his feelings..
2007-02-16 20:49:37 · 9 answers · asked by jiji 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can't tell him that... he's just lonely his not inlove! all i can be is his friend..
2007-02-16 20:55:00 · update #1
waaaaah all you guys trying to say is ama hurt his feelings.. ='( i'm a sweet child, i can't blame myself!!
2007-02-16 20:59:34 · update #2
honey, you cant decrease someones affection without not hurting him.... but i understand your situation.... I've been there before... i was planning on telling you my story but i think it'll just scare you... so here goes... what you can do is be his friend... you said it yourself "he's lonely"... lend an open ear whenever he's sad, share secrets with him or simply be there when he needs you... another thing is talk to him... tell him how you really feel... remember that theres nothing on earth that a good conversation cannot fix!!
2007-02-16 21:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by paipaisiomai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with a boyfriend, hopefully that will work. If it does he might walk cause here's a little secret. Men either like you or we don't, there is no middle, if we wanted to hang out with a woman just to talk and be friends then we take out or mothers or sisters.
2007-02-17 04:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Big 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to decrease his feelings is to sleep with him.
First make youself all gross and smelly. Eat some garlic and onions for dinner. Don't wash for three days.
Second, have really bad, painful sex with him.
When he realizes you are nothing like his fantasy of you he will no longer find you attractive in that way.
Problem solved.
2007-02-17 04:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to try to decrease his feelings for you as much as you need to just tell him how you feel. whether that be you just want to be friends or you have feelings for him but youre not at the same place he is. The truth is always better, but trust me i know its easier said than done.
2007-02-17 04:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Srah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to spare his feelings is to remain truthful and don't let him get the wrong idea for a minute.
Good Luck
2007-02-17 04:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that truth is there's no easy way to break somebody's heart..well what you can do is tell him what you really feel about him and let him know that you are better off as friends and you feel uncomfortable when he talks about his feelings toward you...or you can try to limit your communication with him..
2007-02-17 04:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥heartbreaker♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk and be honest. Let him know how you really feel. No neeed to play any games.
2007-02-17 04:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by J M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control others feelings.Just keep your distance.
2007-02-17 04:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and let him know
2007-02-17 04:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by sam w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋