My gf and I have been dating over a year now. She now tells me she's confused of whether she loves me or not. Before she broke up with me and later she came back. I asked her what she thinks of our relationship and she said doesn't know. I love her so much. What is a best thing that i can do for her not to be confused ?
2007-02-16 19:58:24 · 11 answers · asked by Lomus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her, "Hey listen if you want to be single, I'll totally respect that. Let me know". Then go back and do whatever you were doing and act as if you never had this conversation. Why? Because the moment you show her that you're willing to let go, your the one with value, and that she's the needy one, you've instantly raised your own value and transfered the power of the relationship into your hands. By showing that YOU are secure about yourself and that you believe in your guys relationship, then she too will be convinced that "Yes, this is a strong relationship that I have with him and it'll work out. This is the guy I want to be with".
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2007-02-16 20:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say man but it might be time to move on. But I know how strong love is, and doubt that you could bring yourself to just leave. I would suggest acting more aloof and indiferent about it to her. I know this feels wrong, but I have much experience with the ladies and have found over time that often doing something that feels wrong just works. Girls are attracted to men differntly than we are attracted to them. You should not ever chase her or kiss up to her!! Dont try to buy her affection or change for her whatever you do. This will make her loose respect for you. Remeber that subconciously girls like to be led. Take some control of the situation and dont let her see how much this is hurting you, never appear weak to the opposite sex, it is very unapealling
2007-02-17 04:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Aenima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year of being together she shouldn't be confused about it anymore. I think you should start thinking about you. You don't deserve to be kept in suspense about your relationship and it's not fair that you're taking it all on yourself without her taking any responsibilty for her actions. I really think that she's bored and keeping you on the side waiting for something 'better'. It's gonna hurt but you really should move on and you should do it for you. It's not fair the way she's treating you and if she really did love you, she wouldn't be doing it.
2007-02-17 04:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you guys are but it sounds like she just needs some room/time for thinking and putting your relationship in perspective for her. Sometimes, absence makes the heart grow fonder, maybe you should pull away a little to give some time and it might make her realize how much she really does love you and want you in her life.
2007-02-17 04:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by woohoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally when they're questioning the relationship like that they're sort of "dropping hints" that they just aren't that into you. My ex did that too. He broke up with me three different times. I always came running back to him and tried to patch things up. Turns out he just wasn't the right one for me.
2007-02-17 04:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your having doubts... reverse that whole situation, or tell her you want a break. She seems to be leaning towards breaking up, so if you leave first, at least you'll have confort in knowing you didn't get dumped. Plus, your ego stays in tact and she will probably want you back because you dumped her.
2007-02-17 04:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with woohoo.. she/he is right.
let her be on her own for while and she will eventually realize that she cant be without u and she will declare her love for u. dont try and influence her with books, websites or any of that sort of thing.. she needs to make her own mind up .. and also dont flood her wit extra affection.. i would suggest being neutral with her until she comes to u ..
2007-02-17 04:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by DJ_Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think shes sexually confused just ask if shed like to have a three way i see a major oputune moment for you bro watch itll happen
2007-02-17 04:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by oledaveyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Provide her with information.
Give her books, or websites that explain what love is, what it feels like, the different stages and different types of love, etc.
2007-02-17 04:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her go without making too much of a fuss. She is finished with you.
2007-02-17 04:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋