I went to a party just an hour ago and I danced with a guy. [[Freek danced]]Everyone was just like oh come on who cares. And I kept saying no. But then I was just like ehh what ever. And I did it. Me and my boyfriend got in a huge argument about me doing something. I kept telling him your so stupid you swear like I would do something!
I know I did the wrong thing. And I'm very stupid. I wish I never did it.
Now that he ask me I dont know what to sayy!
What do you think?
2007-02-16 19:48:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I shouldn't lie. But I dont want to get into a big argument. It's not like I had sex or something
2007-02-16 19:53:19 · update #1
My boyfriend gets mad easily and jealous
2007-02-16 19:59:09 · update #2
Same thing once happened to me too, so I know exactly how you feel. Everyone was like 'you did nothing wrong', 'it's only a dance', etc., but I felt really bad and I wished I never did it. I never told my boyfriend though. And I don't go anywhere without him anymore.
If your boyfriend is asking you, tell him the truth. And also tell him that it was a stupid thing to do and that you feel bad about it.
2007-02-16 20:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl,
You need to let him cool down first, and let yourself cool down as well. Call him tomorrw evening or what have you then talk to him. Part of the problem may be that the two of your are not comunicating as much as possible. Wen you start out talking to him, ask him to listen to you. Tell him excatly what you did and what happend, what you didn't do, what it ment to you, and that you are sorry. Then tell him that you really care about him(if you do) and you want to work it out, and ask him if he thinks that is possible. If he says no, it's gonna hurt , that's natural, but it's ok lilmama your 14years old and a freshmen in high school, and weather you belive it or not there are many more relationships to come, ever person that you are with is not meant to be your soulmate, every partner comes in your life to teach you something new!!!
2007-02-17 04:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Maxilary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were under the pressure of other peers. Things to consider legalizing the situation with your boyfriend… Did that person you were dancing with—just got hold of your hand and assumed that you wanted to dance with him? If so did you push away? Where you in the right state of mind—e.g. do you take any kind of medication, did you eat something that made you sick. Where you intoxicated? Where you black mailed into freak dancing? In any case you did cheat on your boyfriend… by freak dancing. It’s only fair to tell him the truth. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to tell him everything—you can leave out details.
2007-02-17 04:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be totally honest otherwise you don't have a relationship to build on at all. Pretty soon he'd be questioning you every time you were out where there are guys. He has to be able to trust you and you have to be able to be willing to tell all. If not nothing happened, nothing happened. Tell him you danced with a guy while you were out with your friends. He should be trusting enough of you even if you were in a room full of naked hotties. Otherwise he's not ready for the commitment with you. If you can't communicate and tell him then he's definitely going to not trust you. You have to be willing to share all. Just like he should be able to tell you if he danced with another girl and you should be trusting enough to know that it didn't mean anything.
2007-02-17 03:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!
If your boyfriend ask you if you dance tell him yes!!! But don't give him any explanations on what and how.
Tell him that a party is a party and that if he expects you to have trust in him, well he needs to have it on you too!!!
Who knows to how many parties he has gone and whatever he has danced and you don't even know about it!!!
I advise you to respond to his question , "YES, I dance and we have fun, and everybody was dancing"!!! Because in a party there are lots of people and probably one of them is going to tell him, that you dance!!!
So if this happens you have a very good argument as that you told him the truth!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
A.Z.
2007-02-17 04:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you were dancing and that was it, i mean if you didn't sleep with the guy or kiss him what is the harm.? I think you should refuse to even argue with him about it, apologise for dancing with another guy but i mean really unless you were actually getting freaky on the dance floor i wouldn't worry.
2007-02-17 03:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by jimmychick78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Im going to be straight forward--Just tell your man. Its just freak nasty dancing. Not like you had sex with the dude or kissed him.
Yes It was wrong but as long as your able to realize it and tell your man it was a one time deal. If your man gets mad about it still then boot his butt to the curb and move on.
2007-02-17 03:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tbrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a boyfriend doesnt mean u cant dance with some1 else, how ever ur best bet is never 2 mention it, if it does come out just say u didnt realise it was a big thing. what he doesnt know cant hurt him now can it??
2007-02-17 03:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell him. Not only because a open relationship is a healthy relationship but if everyone saw like you said, if you lie, he's bound to find out you lied.
2007-02-17 03:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by lejumpsuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that insecure guy of yours the truth. Tell him you went to this party and people begged you to show them your dancing talent and that's precisely what you did. "So aren't you glad you have a hot-talented girlfriend like me, who's the envy of every girl and guy in the room?"
P.S - If he says "No", dump his a.ss
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2007-02-17 03:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋