2007-02-16 19:46:40 · 11 answers · asked by Klassy_03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is 24 i am 23 and about have a masters degree in may, hard working, beautiful, fun loving person i am a single parent (my son loves him of course) we got really close, got along great, (i can cook, play video games, love sports and am really laid back) but i am also direct and impatient, and i think he got scared when he realized he liked the idea of being loved for him, he pulled away and i movd away to anothr state, the distance made him realize my importance, we got closer and then all of a sudden he started pulling away again...he doest trust me...he cant beleive i am here an not dating guys...he says he is too young for a relationship...i am not jealous but one ex is adimit about getting back with him...he is moving out of the states in a few months...with all this said now once again he is opening up my emotions and i dont knw what to do...I have fallen in lov with him I knw he cares but i dont know if it is worth it thes are all the factors...i thnk he is tryin not to hurt me
2007-02-16 20:03:17 · update #1
when it started neither of us were looking for a relationship but i grew to care about him...when he felt me growing closer to him he said he didnt want to rush give him a year max...get to know each other, get stable, and have time to know if this is what we want..but was he still saying he wasnt ready for a relationship but at the same time we spent alot of time together...growing closer and closer...he finally admitted that he had feelings for me and then...all of a sudden he pulls away...he was great with my son, picking him up from school, keeping him while i was in class, (once i decided to let them meet) spent time with us both i was always around him and his friends...we were great and then he just started pulling away...i told him i loved him a month ago and the one year limit is in about a week...
2007-02-16 20:13:07 · update #2
Move on and find someone who can give you the love and respect you deserve. Don't settle for less.
2007-02-16 19:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, how do YOU feel about this ?
How's it working out ?
Do you feel comfortable knowing that you have spent an entire year going out and being with this guy and what you have to show for it is another "friendship" ?
If you are so naive as to consider that there is anything more here than what he has already told you---then no advice in the world is going to get through to you or make any sense at all !!!
Otherwise, clear this dude's stuff out of your parlor and change the locks on your door--- then give him the annoucement that he is welcome at birthday parties and cookouts ---all those things that "friends" get invited to--- but that the "dating" is over and you're now looking for the relationship that HE is not ready for !!!
2007-02-16 19:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what sort of dates you have been having. Also depends on if you have gotten sexual yet. If you have not had romantic dates, but have had sexual relations, he probably thinks of you as a friend with benefits. If you haven't had any romantic dates and no sexual relations, he may need more stages before going into a relationship. If you've had the romantic dates (whether or not you've had sex) and he's still not ready for a relationship it could be because he doesn't like commitment, or perhaps he thinks he could do better than you, or perhaps he's a womaniser.
2007-02-16 19:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are.
If you are under 25 then yes, he isn't ready for a relationship. If he is over 25 you might as well give up on that guy.
2007-02-16 19:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by holeeycow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are a friend with extra's from his point of view. If he can't admit that you 2 are in a relationship i would walk away and find someone who is willing to have a proper relationship with you. You deserve to do it for yourself.
2007-02-16 19:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by jimmychick78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been dating a year and now he's saying he's not ready for a relationship, that means, he's dumping you, but he doesn't have the balls to come right out and say it.
2007-02-16 19:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably back off.. as hard as that might be. He seems to be wasting your time. Find a guy who appreciates you and what you have to offer.
2007-02-16 19:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, hes not worth it... u cant stop him talking 2 other girls no matter if u are in a relationship or not.
2007-02-16 19:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry 2 burrst ur bubble.... but it aint going 2 work. the 1st yr should be the best.... so its only going 2 get worse!!! just being honest .... been there
2007-02-16 19:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by dodger805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the Independant One
DUMP his ***!!
2007-02-16 19:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by DJ_Crystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋