What Should I Do?

Question

Okay so I have this boyfriend...i love him...i really do. We've known each other for years and I simply love him. But sometimes I feel like its not worth it and that he doesn't care about me. I can't really explain it...but I feel like sometimes he only loves me when its "convenient". Don't get me wrong...He's a great guy and he's a sweetheart...but sometimes I can't help but feel that he doesn't really care...what should I do about this?

Answer 1

i think in situations like this, you've gotta think about yourself. i know it may sound selfish, but if u dont feel happy or you're uncomfortable in the relationship, no matter how much you love him, it might just not work out the way you want it to..

i've known guys like yours.. guys who are close to perfect but they are just only there when they need you or something.. they're great and all but in a way you're just there.. im not saying they use you, they love you as well.. they're only there when its crucial ...

its hard because u know they're right for you but u just dont want to get hurt because you dont want to be left in the dark.. i had a friend like that. eventaully she broke up with him but they're still really good friends and it seemed they were better that way.. because they were there for each other whenever they needed it but didnt have to commit too much into their relationship..

i think what u might need to do is just talk to him.. come clean with how u feel.. i know, easier said than done.. but once u get it off your chest, you'll feel alot better.. he might have a good reason for it and you guys might sort something out.. dont keep it within you.. tell him before u feel even more uncomfortable and thus make it harder for u to tell him...

im sure he's a wonderful person and he'll understand what you want to say to him, so take your chance and do it..

good luck!! =]

Answer 2

I had a similar conversation with my little female cousin. She was telling me about her deal and I basically explained to her that if she is feeling this way then she needs to approach him. And thats what you should do, let this person know what is going on in your heart and mind. Now listen carefully, if he does not respond in some type of positive way other then to wade you away from the issue then you need to take the next few moments and see if this is really what you want. You need to ask yourself if you want to keep on feeling this way or if you want change and whatever else that you are yearning for. Now these questions can be answered for you by just looking at him while you talk to him. Of course this type of conversation needs to be done in person thats the only way for you to make a true decision. Now your first instinct will likely be your correct one so look for the truth and not false hopes. Life is only for so long you may as well enjoy as much of it as you can with someone that helps you feel secure. Good luck

Answer 3

If you are feeling that there is no real future with this guy, you may be right! In that case you have to think about how to move on. But by leaving him with no real cause will make you miss him very much. It does not look easy! You can ease out of this relationship little by little if you can, but if you give in to his smile, charm and dreamy eyes, then maybe he deserves a chance! =<)

Answer 4

Talk to him. Communication is the answer. And talk to him as adult. Don't approach him in an accusing way. Accept whatever answers he gives you with gentleness and patience. Tell him how you feel as well.

Answer 5

don't love a guy more than the guy loves u.

you'll end up miserable if not already.

get yourself some backup guys for sex/talking/shopping.

let him know that you're hard to get.

guys are so stupid. just give him what he gives u.

nothing better , nothing worst

Answer 6

Maybe you should tell him. Tell him how he makes you feel. He'll try to help you by attempting to be more careful. Good Luck!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

move on