What does it mean when a guy turns off his cellphone everynight?

Question

I don't know, if your boyfriend is turning off his cellphone every time he comes in would you think he was cheating. I am starting to feel so. I try to go through it but he locks the phone so I can't. I don't know what to think because he tells me he don't feel like hearing it ring or he'll be like he don't feel like charging it so he will keep it in his sleeping shorts all night and while he sleep. I'm just so confused, I'm so not prepared for this (getting hurt) I just got out a bad marriage a year ago. My heart just can't take anymore...what should I say? or do...

Answer 1

I would defintely think he was if I was in that situation. There is absolutely no reason to ALWAYS turn off your phone when you come in or to lock it ...other than you have something to hide. It's suspicious behaviour and I would be worried too. His behaviour raises serious red flags. If he didn't want to hear it ring he could simply turn it down or leave it in another room. And what's so bad about it running out of charge? He could always just re-charge it... and the whole "keeping it in his shorts" is just absurd. Everyone wants privacy but seriously who goes to so much trouble?!?!? He is definitely hiding something and you should talk to him. Accusing him is never a good way to approach the subject. I would simply bring it up and tell him how it makes you feel. Bottom line is that you don't trust him... perhaps bc he is cheating.. perhaps bc you have trust issues from your previous marriage that you mentioned.. or perhaps due to a combination of the both. Trust yourself and how your feeling about the situation. Remember that you're the only one that can look out for you. Do what's in your best interest. It might be that you are at a place in your life that you need to make some time to take care of yourself and just be single. I hope things work out for you though. Take care

Answer 2

you ever see the movie ; theres a thin line between love and hate/ if not, go see it. I'm a guy , and somethimes we do foolish things , but when you say what you said about his habits, isn't right... Let me ask you , was he always like this , so secretive, or is it something that has just began to happen , and either way how has it changed as far as his getting mad about his privacy? do some devious , get someone to call him during the day around the time he takes his lunch break , at work or as sson as he is available...? use *67 block -- blocks their number. but make sure it is someone he has never met , or have heard about , tell him that you met either at a local bar he has been to , or at a public place (such as wal-mart) and tell him you forgot his conversation but remembered his name and had his number listed in the top 5 , but you (the friend) had a boyfriend , but now you're available... have them pursue him ,and , if he bites giove him a reasonable excuse and go out of town on a business trip , or a family emergency? you don't really leave , you go to a girlfriend's house (one he has never met , or cared for, so he doesn't catch you) because you don't want to lose his trust in you, and you don't want to give him the same doubts about you, and YOU don't want anybody that you know to know what you are doing, he may be sleeping with a colleague or a co-worker, but until you know for sure what is going on, you play it safe and trust his motives, although they do seem a bit extreme. and give him what you want, in yoiur relationship, because you may be the one at fault, not being able to trust him, hince ~ the bad marriage.

Answer 3

I wouldn't jump to conclusions but at the same time, I would trust your gut instinct too. I wouldn't go through his phone but maybe...just stop calling and see what happens. All of a sudden you're not as "available" as you once were? Don't go all "Jerry Springer" on him but it's important to remember to take care of yourself first. Also, be strong....esp since you recently got out of a bad marriage.

One thing to remember though....you need to have trust to have a relationship....really look at what's going on...also - do you like the person that you're becoming with him re: checking up on him and such?

Answer 4

Go with your gut feeling. If you think that he is cheating then he probably is.

If this is a new behavior that he hasn't been doing for the entire time that he has been with you then I would really be supicious about it as well.

I think that you already know the answer to your question. Do what you need to do now before you get hurt anymore.

Answer 5

You know, cause you've been there done that, and you know the signs. Come on now, he keeps his cell phone in his shorts
all night, locks it, turns it off when he comes in ------WHOA get
your head out the sand girl, don't you know about the duck ( looks like, feels like. etc.)

You're stronger than you think, but you need to give yourself some time to figure out why you keep on getting the "DUCK"!
Get him to come clean., you know how if you really want to., and
UNPLUG HIM from your life, before you make yourself sick.

a clear break heals faster than a jagged one, so it's time to cut
the cord (even if his phone don't have one) Good Luck!!

Answer 6

My husband is big on us turning off our cell phones every night, but he never locks his phone. I do have a friend who keeps his phone on vibrate so his wife doesn't hear it, but I am not saying that's the case with your guy. I do think you should trust your feelings because you never going to be happy with having to worry about this all the time.

Answer 7

In my opinion it sounds like cheating. i would slap my boyfriend if he turned off his phone when he wasnt with me! But if his phones locked what you can do is get ahold of his phone bill and see that numbers that he called or called him and for how long they talked and what time. You can also see text messages. or go online, i have verizon and all i had to do was put in my acc # and maby soc. and you have full access to the info! not that im telling u to be sneaky! good luck.

Answer 8

its really up to you if u trust him or not.. dont worry so much, ull get paranoid, trust your boyfriend for he says and leave when you've got solid proof.. i know it worries you but if thats what he says and he's telling the truth, you dont want him thinking u didnt beleive him.. if he lies, then screw him.. he's not worth it.. leave him and dont look back.

my boyfriend turns his phone off also before he goes to sleep.. he does it because he doesnt wanna be woken up in the middle of the night and he knows i probably wont call so he sees no reason to keep it on.. sometimes when i call its off aswell so i just call home and ask for him.. no biggie.. my bf says he isnt cheating so i beleive him.. when i see him actually doing it THEN i start to get worried.. but for now, i have his word..

dont worry =]

Answer 9

If you live with him, that's kinda strange that he turns it off i guess. If you don't live with him and he turns it off.. he prolly just wants to sleep or he turns it off cus he wants to be left alone. That's kinda wierd that he locks you out of his cell phone. I mean, yeah ppl have right to their privacy, but yeah when you've gone through crap like that it leaves you to wonder. Us women love to wonder alot and love to be snoopy!

Answer 10

if he is turning it off AND sleeping with it every night....I would ditch him. Unless he's CIA or something, he's probably got more going on than just you. Sorry to say it but don't kid yourself, if something's not right, it's not. Trust your gut, we weren't born with women's intuition for nothing.