we are both christans and i ahev known him for years
2007-02-16 19:00:39 · 15 answers · asked by Chloe M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would say NO, because your 14. To young in my opinion
2007-02-17 01:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are very uptight.
I believe that parenting styles nowadays vary so much from family to family.
I, personally, would allow you to date if I felt the guy was not some sort of weirdo predator. There are far worse things that you could be doing. I dated older guys when I was 14/15... Of course every relationship I have ever had has been at least a year & a half long, even at the age of 14.
My fiance, on the other hand, would strongly disagree. I gather this from conversations that we have had in the past.
What you have to remember is that you are still young, don't wrap yourself up in a relationship, it is not going to last. Trust me. I let my childhood go and started acting like a grown adult at a young age, and I miss being a kid. You will think that you're in love, but you're not, it's puppy love. Again, trust me. Everything at that age seems so dramatic. Once again, trust me. It's not.
2007-02-17 05:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by [Isaiah born 12/31/09!] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say education is much more important, you are to young and you must understand, if you have to ask then you know right from wrong. So you both are Christians, but very young Christians, but that does not justify the fact he is still older, and you need to understand that this could mess up your relationship w/him if you both decide to date. Your parents might not see him w/the same respect... I would say it's OK to hang out and be friends, as a mother I would be a little skeptical, because you are only 14, I don't think I would like my daughter dating a 16 year old at all...
2007-02-17 04:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is a Christian, she is 20 and is just dating a wonderful man for the first time. She made the decision to wait. When she was 18 she started to go out in groups. She is very glad she has waited. Even a mature 14 year old and my daughter was very mature at 14 needs to wait. You probably are not going to marry this guy so why take the chance of giving part of your heart away before it is time to do so? Group things are fine at church or with your other close friends but date? No. Sorry. You have lots of time. Enjoy being you, enjoy your friends, go to church and grow in the Lord. Plenty of time for dating. Think it through. You know what is right to do or you wouldn't be asking.
2007-02-17 03:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say talk with your parents about it. If they know and trust him then I would say OK with supervision until you were 16. My problem would come when he turns 18 and you are 16 he can no longer express any type of affection do to statutory rape laws. I would also ask you to remember what you want in life with out his presents and see if it still if ts what you want. I think on a part time basis knowing both of you and being included with activities then maybe. I have a 9 month old daughter and thinking right now that she will not be allowed to date until she is 16. Her mother suggested until she was a sophomore, so talk with your parents and see what they believe. It may not be worth the effort to be one on one with him. Try group activities with the youth group for example.
2007-02-17 11:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by mackurtz98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were my child I would say you are too young to go out on a date. However, I would let him come over and share family time with us. If he is a Christian and you know him well then it shouldn't be a big deal for him to "hang out" with the family. The only reason he would have a problem with that is because he wants to be private with you and take the relationship to a more physical level. So beware.
2007-02-17 03:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by IAmDamon1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old daughter and she is not allowed to have a boyfriend or date, she did have a male friend and they were allowed to go to an amusement park with his family. I would only allow anything that another adult was around. IF I were your parent. =)
2007-02-17 03:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 and even 16. I believe group dates are better. You can still spend time together but in a group setting. skating, bowling, playing or watching sports.
2007-02-18 11:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother i have told my kids they have rules to dating
1 ) they can date 2 years older or younger than them
2 ) no sex under 16
3 ) no unprotected sex the girl have to be on birth control and they have to use condoms
4 ) never in my house never in car
and after i sit my child and there g/f or b/f down and have this talk i talk to the other child's parents and make sure they are comfortable with my point of view and get there's and make sure we know where and what our kids are doing
2007-02-17 04:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a little early for a one on one "date". If you were to go out with a small group of friends, kids that I knew, I would have no problem with it.
I also think he could visit your home for something like supper and then a DVD movie.
2007-02-17 15:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋